Starting with “to get something” is a dangerous place to be, because it makes you vulnerable.
Start with giving relentlessly.
Without the intention of receiving.
Without worrying about whether they’ll give you what you want.
Just with the intention of making their world better.
Why to do that, you may ask.
Because in order to let them decide freely and give it to you, you really need to let them know that you care. Like your parents did, and you’re ready to do anything for them, right?