People who say this have a special place for sympathy in the corner of my heart.
Bro, now that I have called you, let’s talk na, instead of ranting of my “ill-behaviour” 😀
Also, for your peace of mind, unless you are my parent, I am not going to call you as a religion, my friend. You must know everyone has their space, life and choice to be reaching out to people. When you hold people accountable to you when they are not, they only drift apart.
Few things that will help further:
- Every relationship is a two-way street. It would have meant the world to the other person had you picked up the phone and called – not sounding needy or resentful, just because you cared.
- People would love to call you if you do not make everything about you. No matter how sorted the other person is, they aren’t your therapist who listens to you for 50 minutes straight. On a related note, therapy is a skill and even therapists need therapists – which concludes the fact that making people your therapists isn’t going to help you.
- Reaching out to people for help is okay. I know I was in a pit a couple of months ago and reached out to GJ, my colleague, several times, with a text: “Hey GJ, I feel like crying for XX reason. If you are in a place to listen, can we please get on a call?” She was always gracious enough to lend a listening ear and speak to me for I did not do that more than 2-3 times, and sought her permission before making it about me. This is how you do it, ladies and gentlemen!
- I understand people feel hollow when they are feeling alone, and end up saying mean things to others. However, the only person who can make you feel complete is you. Friends, family, job – all are there to help you but no one can do it for you other than you.
- The last one – your words wire your world. If someone did not call you, you may call it their purposeful ignorance towards you, lack of time, focus on other priorities in their life, or perhaps other things that you aren’t aware of.
No matter what, no one’s life revolves around you.
When you start revolving your life around yourself, you realise this powerful statement.
And then you become a giver of happiness, not an unfortunate ask-er (I’m not using the more appropriate word here, because it isn’t a high energy word).