We have 100 days left in 2022.

We humans otherwise have divided consensus on almost everything in life, however, what we all will collectively agree with is that 2022 passed away real real quick. Quicker than all previous years combined.

And for whatever reason, new years do not excite me enough to gather the opportunity to set new goals – it is like trapping your mind into becoming something different just because your fingers will now write a different date.

All these hopes don’t work!

So, starting today, I’m going to write for 90 minutes straight every morning.
For the rest of 2022.
Let’s use 2022 to be more powerful, get more clarity in mind, and also, land up into some new amazing projects 🙂

These 100 days are also going to be the strongest resistance because:

• Diwali month and shopping
• Navratri and chana puri
• Travel (I have 4-5 days planned, not much, thankfully)
• Visiting home
• Sleeping late on one night of Diwali
• Existing politicians in life that wake up time and again
• Work commitments because I am a good person and employee 🙂
• Not sleeping well
• Winters shouting out loud to get into the blanket
• Perhaps even winning my dream project so that I have “legit reasons” to procrastinate.

But no. No. Oh no no no no no!

I will also document it in my blog daily – either as an update at the end of the blog, or a standalone blog if I have something huge to share.

Okay then, it just took me 8 minutes to write this (including taking 1.5 minute to pee)! And I think I have already written a lot. Imagine what 9000 minutes of writing (100 days X 90 minutes) is going to do.

Already excited 🙂

PS: If you also want to get on a ride like this, send me an email or DM me on Twitter (@nishthagehija26) and we’ll be accountability buddies 🙂

PS2: If you think you will lose motivation along the way, go to seths.blog and pick up a random blog to read. You’ll be back to taking action. Ok then, see you tomorrow! I gotta write!

Love in the sense of romantic love is the lowest downgraded form of love.

Do you know what true love can do?

• It can make friends text you back, despite not being in touch due to mutual differences.
• It can make colleagues make impossible possible for you, because you don’t want to extract the worst out of them.
• It can make colleagues your friends, because you truly care for them!
• It can make friends get out of their way of strict schedule, because you need them.
• It can make landlords and tenants live on a parent-child relationship.
• It can make people not only give up on their dreams, rather pursue yours along with you because you truly care.

Love is the most insensitive thing if you think of getting a partner.

Love is the most powerful force on the planet if you are filled with love. Because then, whosoever comes in touch with you, gets exactly that.

What is your definition of no?

For some, it is no to phone after 8 pm.

For some, it is no to Instagram from their phone.

For some, it is choosing to have a different phone altogether for family and friends, so that no one else can reach them.

You choose your definition of no. And stick to it. Because if you don’t, you have no right to ask others to stick to it.

You show others, how to treat you, said Oprah. Never not a wise word from her 🙂

Don’t be too available.

Or too wanna be kind when you don’t mean it.

Or too happily pretentious when you aren’t.

Sometimes, strength is in not being available. Sometimes, strength is knowing your strength.

Over time, I have figured that it is not the best thing to suppress what you are feeling.

However, if what you are feeling is unpleasant, it is not the best thing for anyone to hear as well.

Then, what is the solution?

The solution is to journal. Let it all out. And then learn lessons from it, to act better the next time.

This way, you are dealing with your thoughts instead of suppressing them. And also making a mechanism to act better. Win-win.

The days are difficult.
Followed by difficult weeks.
Followed by difficult months.

And if you want to change your life, do not attempt at changing them altogether. It will only lead you to misery.

Rather, go ahead and change one part of your day. And stay relentlessly committed to it.
And then the other. And then the next.

Quicker than you know, you would have changed all the parts of you that were not who you are.

That is the beauty of difficult days. They reveal to you what doesn’t need to be there. So that it finally leaves.

I was listening to a Seth Godin podcast one evening, while walking in a park in my hometown in Kota.

In response to a question (that I don’t remember), he answered that everyone must blog daily, even if anonymously.

I took that to heart.
And took on the mammoth task of blogging daily.
Till date, this is the place that gets the minimum views, of anything that I post online. However, this is the place that has always been my anchor, over the years, to continue with my writing practice.

It has lead me to ghostwriting books, changing my career to full-time writing, making more than my peers (no it doesn’t matter), has fulfilled my dreams that I didn’t even see – just because I stayed true to it, without having to report to anyone.

Good advice changes your life.
The best part about good advice?
It is everywhere.
You just need to act.
Today.

It’s late already, but I gotta write.
Everyone’s an influencer already, but I gotta write.
Everyone seems sorted already, and hence, I gotta write.

It is going to be difficult.
Very difficult.

The most difficult thing in the world is not to make money.
The most difficult thing in the world is to do the difficult thing that your heart wants to, despite you know it is not going to make you money eventually, rather, way more than you imagined.

How much scrolling the social media is enough?
How much of wasting time is allowed?
For how long are you allowed to give more than is “right” and wait for things to turn your way?

The reality is, anything that is breached, is breached.

I think about this often.

I am someone who lives a wonderfully disciplined life. All of it, by choice.
There is no one forcing me to do things a certain way or live a certain way.
As a matter of fact, I have all the freedom to be as spoilt as I could, without anyone even coming to know about it.

But being spoilt is the worst thing you could do to yourself.
Imagine all the effort you have to take in getting out of hangovers, feeling bad on spilled milk, wasting money on food and drinks outside, and also saying things you didn’t intend do, yet wanted to say.

Discipline is easy.
Because it requires the least amount of effort.

Every action of being spoilt is what it does to you: spoil you.

Why would you want to do that?
How much is enough?
Why do we have to have an upper limit for wrong?

With WhatsApp introducing “reactions” to someone else’s message, we now have a beautiful foray into ending a chat where we don’t have anything more to contribute.

But here is more interesting about that feature:

• When someone “reacts” to your message, you do not have to go open that chat to see if they have reacted or not. You can see it from the outside as well. WhatsApp understood the human need for validation, and thus, came up with this really “check-that-they-have-reacted-from-outside-itself” instead of checking it over and over again.
• This enhances in User-experience in group chats. In group chats, only if someone has reacted to the message I sent, will be shown on the outside of the chat. If A and B have reacted to each other’s messages and I had no part to play in them, I won’t be shown those reactions. Isn’t that so beautiful to think about me? Oh yes, A and B would certainly be able to see that outside of the group chats for themselves. Their dose of validation still continues.

I am usually not a big fan of technology, however, this was deep thoughtfulness into human psychology deployed by the coders of WhatsApp, and they deserve an ovation for that!