What is the cost of living life on your own terms?
You will be criticised by people who aren’t living their life on their own terms.
Don’t blame them, have sympathy for them.
Don’t wait for them to say sorry, you forgive them.
More than anything else, don’t stop when they want to live life according to you. They aren’t happy, you please don’t give up on yours because of their lack of it. The best way to make someone happy is to be happy yourself
There was one instance last week, where my Mom needed my help.
And I couldn’t.
More so, I’m glad I couldn’t.
I do not have membership of any OTT: Netflix, Prime, Hotstar – none.
This is something that I’m proud of – for saving hours of my precious time.
So last week when my Mom missed an episode of a serial, she asked me to search for it in Hotstar app.
And lo’ an behold, as much a techie I am, I couldn’t search for it! Tried and made errors, still no success!
A beautiful example of why ignorance is bliss and superpower sometimes.
While my Mom managed to forgive me, I just loved this non-awareness of mine.
Our mind, of course, is a beautiful garden that doesn’t deserve the seeds of hatred from the TV.
Do you have such a weird habit?
What if a recruiter found a profile of gold and expressed the candidate clearly how good they were?
What if an influencer thanked a fan from the bottom of their heart when they did a nice gesture for them?
What if a boss voluntarily thanked an employee for the contribution they brought on the table?
We don’t express our truest emotions in our work because when we were on the receiving side of things, this is how the world worked.
The world we live in, is the world we have so meticulously created. So does the power to change vest onto us. How will we use it?
1. Never type an e-mail in an impulse.
2. Attend lesser (read: no) parties.
3. Don’t assume, simply ask.
4. If at all you assume about people, assume the most positive outcome. Assuming about work isn’t even allowed until made clear.
5. Read Naval Ravikant daily.
For almost half a year, we’ve all been working remotely. While the new world comes along with its advantages and disadvantages, there is something under the covers we fail to see:
Since we lack communication, we fall in the trap of assuming. That assumption is often towards the negative side.
Perhaps we can’t have more communication with others anyway.
So why not start having those with our own selves? Why not start figuring out the most powerful meanings, when the meaning is up to us? Why do we have to just go the negative way?
Trust yourself, as much as you trust others.
Trust yourself more often.
Trust others more often.
Trust the pain, because it solely is responsible for making you enjoy the joy of life.
Trust your hard work, it never goes to vain.
Trust your parents, even when you don’t want to.
Trust your friends, they are there for you – anytime and any place.
Trust your work, coz it will go out into the world and do more good.
More than anything else, trust yourself. You have handled worse in the past. This too, shall pass.
There is a popular saying that goes: You will only get things only when you ask people.
Though that’s true, a bigger aspect is not being desperate.
Just focus on being happy and grateful where toh are, everything else will be drawn to you quicker than you think.
Trust yourself, as much as you trust everyone else.
It’s okay to have unanswered emails.
It’s okay to miss a Zoom meeting on purpose.
It’s okay to not follow a schedule once a blue moon.
It’s okay to disagree with your loved ones.
It’s okay to buy and have things in way less than what you earn.
It’s okay, to be okay when it’s not okay. Okay?
When you are angry, don’t respond.
When you are angry, trust yourself it will get better.
When you are angry, go outdoors (yes, even balcony would help.)
When you are angry, do NOT reach out to your phone.
And next time when you are angry, and you calm down, ask yourself, how to protect yourself from the same thing next time?
For several months, I’ve been trying to change a habit of mine, which is: to not check work related WhatsApp messages and emails on Sundays.
However, despite multiple efforts, wasn’t able to get off the habit.
Same thing happened yesterday. I attended to work messages in the first half.
In the second half, I went to play badminton with my nephews and nieces. As a result, when I came back, still I didn’t open their WhatsApps. I didn’t have the urge in the first place!
It shows the power of physical activity on our mind, and how much controlling power we have.
No matter how important or urgent the work is, nothing is more important than the much-needed nothingness.