10 years ago

Mark Manson asked a question on Twitter today: List three things you wish you understood 10 years ago.

Here’s my response:

1. To say no in a potential relationship, where you know it ain’t going to work, is power.

2. Invest in equity.

3. Build a community.

PS: I was already working out, meditating, reading books and eating right at that point. So missed out these basics 🙂

Don’t like Zoom calls?

One of the most common causes of anxiety is getting intimidated by looking at so many happy faces in a Zoom call, and then wondering, if it is only your life that is screwed up.

Here’s a hack I have started doing recently, and it works really well: I just look at myself, and it really works.

Not from an ego sense, rather making sure my face radiates the positivity I want to stand for.

If I am positive, I will influence others.
If I am comparing myself to others, I will myself ruin my positivity.

Kindling away the distractions!

It’s incredible how good distractions force us to do good!

For the past 4-5 days, I noticed myself eating more than usual.
I knew I wasn’t hungry.
But just couldn’t resist!

So I played a small hack.

Each time I went to the dining table, I carried Kindle along with me.
Once I was done eating the right amount of food, I immediately switched on to reading for the next 10-15 minutes.

After that, the cravings disappeared.
So did the “hunger”.
What was left was a wiser brain and a leaner body.
Total Win-Win!

I still do that, and on each meal it works wonders!!!
Isn’t it (not at all) strange how everything in our mind is just a correlation?

Which, in turn means, we have been living our entire life on hacks!!

Two feet away

A man met with an accident, and clung to a branch.

Shouted to God, help me!

God asked, “Would you trust me?”

Of course!

God asked once again. He responded the same.

Once again.

“So leave the branch!”

He didn’t.

And died.

The next morning, the villagers saw a corpse hanging to the branch, while the ground was two feet away.

This is what is the matter with trust. When we go ahead with trusting God, we need to surrender. But if we surrender to God on a conditional basis, it helps to remember that God is the most jealous lover. He wants you to love only Him and no one else. If you do, there is nothing that can stop you!

For the first time!!!

I heard this song for the first time, in a performance by Prateek Kuhad, and couldn’t stop myself from grooving.

So I had to share this:

Tedhe-medhe raaste hain
Jaadui imaaratein hain
Main bhi hoon
Tu bhi hai yahan

Khoyi soyi sadko pe
Sitaron ke kandhon pe
Hum naachte udte hain yahan

Damn, this guy called Prateek Kuhad’s voice is such innocent and deep yet easy… Gonna make a new Spotify playlist now 🙂

The first pair of Nikes

This has been my first pair of Nikes.

Up until now, I used to believe that Puma, Nike, Adidas and Reebok are all really good brands. So I have worn Adidas, Reebok and Puma so far – because they were cheaper than Nike.

Until when I stumbled on this. This was also the cheapest one, in the sale. But it just made all other shoes irrelevant.

A reiteration of a life lesson: Quality is remembered long after the price is forgotten.

I somehow do not agree with Anupama

The show “Anupama” has taken the Internet by storm, more so rightly. Not only women, rather an almost equal proportion of men love it.

The protagonist Anupama is starting her journey of life afresh, after her husband was infidel to her.

He begs, shouts, does everything to her for forgiveness, but she wants to move on in her life. She tells him to be faithful to at least one relationship.

Maybe she is right in her place. Maybe she has gone through a lot for her to be able to reach here. Maybe she was broken into pieces before she could reach this place of peace.

As my Mom said, “Usne dil se apne pati ko chhor diya hai!”

But what if she forgave him?
What if she let him in again?
What if she forgave him because it takes effort to keep a relationship? If he really means it, why does she not want to forgive him?

I may not be the best person to comment on this because I am not in her place. But maybe maybe maybe, moving on also means forgiving.

Giving up on trends

Okay, so I have finally decided to give up on creating Insta reels.

Not because I can’t.
Rather because it is distracting.

Creating a video requires a lot of effort. And a lot of screen time. Which is not the best use of my time.

Also, as I thought deeper, even if my reels get viral, even if I become a great influencer because of reels, even if each reel of mine hits a million views, I am encouraging mini content which anyway has very little impact for inducing change in viewers. Especially on a platform like Instagram where everything is designed to make you waste your time and kill your attention, I want to be someone who actually makes people NOT waste their time by creating text-only images.

The best part? They can be scheduled through Facebook Creator instead of actually installing the app.

So maybe yes, reels are trending. However, I am way happy with working on LinkedIn and Twitter, while creating text-only pics on Instagram. Instead of working on “virality”, I’ll work on my originality and let my tribe fall in love with who I really am – a words girl, not a video girl 🙂

When people show you who they are…

When people show you who they are, believe them, said Oprah.

Do not confuse their one-time goodness with their nature of not giving a damn to you.
Do not confuse their one-time kindness with their all-time rudeness.
Do not confuse their one-time attention with their lack of attention all the time.

Protecting yourself is super power.

With that, it is also important to know that their reality does not affect your mindset.

Know their truth, distance yourself from them, yet at the same time, never think bad about them.

See them for who they could be while keeping yourself away from who they are!