We have witnessed real life examples of nepotism…at least for Bollywood.
While I reality, nepotism exists everywhere.
You may do all the good work however the boss has someone else as their favourite.
So be it even if you go volunteer for a good cause.
We all are lying on different spectrums of that.
The goal, then, is not to cringe about it.
The goal is to decide what you’re going to do despite it.
If you’re alone and you don’t like it, somewhere you have done something to deserve it.
If you’re alone and you do like it, somewhere you have done something to deserve it.
Part I: Giving Help
If you want to help someone else, make sure you’ve helped yourself.
If you think you are still doing them a favour, you are not.
People love to know they’re loved, only if they could feel you loving yourself.
Part II: Asking for Help
If you are asking for someone else’s help out of their obligation to do it for you and out of their inability to not do it willingly, probably you need to rethink your choices.
The only way to have everything aligned on the outside is to align yourself from within. Nothing changes before that.
Today I turned 29. Yet I feel happier than ever.
Well, since I’m still in celebration mode and will share it how in
another blog post, here’s what something that today taught me:
1. There is just so much love around you. You just need to get out and see and receive.
2. People are kinder than expected. We just need to let them know where they are.
3. The only thing your family wants from you is your happiness.
4. Life is all about love (and of course some healthy habits.)
5. Dark chocolate cake baked at home is the best.
I’m sure there must be some people whom we have kept out of viewing our Instagram and WhatsApp stories. The reason could be any – whether we don’t want them to know about our life, or we simply don’t want them to be in our life at all!
Think about it for a second: what if someone has already kept you out of their stories?
It’s natural to have a FOMO and feel bad as well.
However, what if that could be one of the best things to happen to you today?
Why do we want to know everything about everyone?
What will be the consequences if we don’t know that? Simple – we would be at more peace. And that’s elusive. Lack of indulgence is greatest power.
What if there is no one who loves me?
This is a scary question.
However the answer is a simple one.
No one actually loves you.
If you feel love is coming to you from someone, it’s because they are so full of love that they radiate it.
If you feel you are loved, that’s because you believe yourself to be worthy of love.
Love – is never to be experienced from others.
You can just fill yourself with so much love that you are radiating and receiving it all the time.
That is your true nature.
It removes all doubts of not being loved.
The question is, what will you do to get back to you?
No prescriptions, just the truth that you deserve needs to be the answer.
It makes it very clear that love is what you are made up of.
The thing that you are looking for, is superficial.
You will not get it because it depends on someone else seeing it in you.
You will get it because being honest deep within, is a rare trait to be acknowledged. Let that trait shine on, even when there is acknowledgment coming from someone else to someone else. Being authentic is rare, live up to that.
I was having a conversation with someone yesterday, who was justifying their anger.
When I told them you always have the option to choose love, they said where do I get so much love from?
Very valid question.
With a simple answer: connect with God because He is the ocean.
Like every relationship, it requires commitment.
Like every deep relationship, it will nurture deeply.
Someone in my circle, is going through a tough time in their life.
They have been going through a lot of tough decisions that they want to take.
Last couple of days, we got to spend some time together.
I spoke with them on some days, and they were okay the next day.
Today they’re back to square one, wishing and wanting the world to change.
Here’s the secret about the world: It will change the moment we change.
In order for us to change, it will:
a. initially require focussed effort
b. an effort to leave your bad habits
c. the belief that in order to change your life, you need to change your life.
The dependency on people is short lived. You get to spend your entire life with yourself. What you choose to do when no one is watching, is what you get to become when everyone is watching.
How to grow more?
How to have more money?
How to grow spiritually?
The answer to having everything in life is:
What are you giving in order to have it?
Do you believe you deserve it?
Have you helped enough people realise what they wanted to?