Sometimes, the problem is not with you.
You are doing your best.
Your absolute, honest level of best.
And some people, they just cannot take someone who is so put together, so they act out subconsciously, and take advantage of these put together people.
I remember I once did multiple things in one job, just to help the team.
The result? The boss taking me out because I reached out to him once every two weeks for a 1:1.
Another time, I trusted a friend way too much.
Result? I struggled with trusting people way after that. As a matter of fact, I would doubt anyone who would be nice to me, because for me, niceness meant “I will trust you, you will be nice, you will stop being nice, and disappear”.
Another time, I helped a client with writing 1.5X words for a book we originally contracted for.
The result? IDGAF, missing out on calls, not responding to messages and emails, and demanding even more work!
So, my friend, the world is not going to soften for you just because you are a rose.
You, my friend, need to display that you have thorns as well, should people try to pluck you in vain.
The problem with nice people is they think their niceness can change wrong people. It does. Only when you let them know the consequences of fooling around with you.