Nothing feels as worthless as abandonment feels.
In his memoir, “Friends, Lovers and the Big Terrible Thing”, Matthew Perry writes about how he was flown alone as a 5 year old from Canada to US. It was one of the many things that led to a lifelong feeling of abandonment for him.
“If I’d been enough, they wouldn’t have left me unaccompanied, right?…The other kids had parents with them. I had a sign and a magazine.”
If I think of worst moments of my life or people I know, they have certainly been some sort of abandonment.
Some sort of action of someone else, that says “You are not loved.”
It does not have to be only from family.
I guess every single one of us has a responsibility.
Responsibility to be loveful.
Responsibility to let the other person know they are safe, no matter what.
With the multiple people we meet at work, I think this should be our lifestyle. Good work and money will be a natural by-product.
And remember, when people aren’t as loveful as they must be, it is mostly because they themselves are feeling some sort of abandonment.
Love them even more.
Without letting them walk over you, of course.
You never know, your niceness, your acceptance, your loveful nature could be the nicest thing that could have happened to someone that day.