Let go of the need for validation.
Let go of the need to have the credit.
Let go of the illusion that you aren’t enough.
Let go of the fact that your childhood can’t change.
Let go of the fact that people will love you for your truth.
Let go of the people who don’t care for you as a human being.
Let go of the unprofessional people who want you to take care of 100% professionalism.
Let go, Nishtha. That is when you will truly be able to hold what is 100% yours – your positivity and power.
The reason for getting sad is never the real reason.
The loss.
The no.
The rejection.
The lack.
The “never”.
These are not the real reasons. They are just drapes to cover up the original reasons.
The real reason is we are crying for something deeper.
We believe we don’t matter.
We think that our work doesn’t make an impact.
Or our presence doesn’t make anyone happy.
Or that everything will be happy even if we left.
Or perhaps that there will never be a tomorrow.
That is the real thing that makes us sad.
Think through it about what made you sad recently.
The reason was one of these.
However, the truth of life is this:
YOU matter.
YOU are important.
YOUR work makes a difference.
YOUR absence would make things difficult.
YOU are needed.
This holds true irrespective of what ANYONE tells you.
Pause for a moment to read this.
Law of attraction says that if you are looking for a partner, keep the seat next to you empty.
Thus, I purposefully do NOT keep the seat next to me empty 🙂
Hey Nishtha,
a. Slowly and gradually, you will overcome the bad habits by creating good ones. Patience is power.
b. Your validation lies in your ability to do what is right.
Everything else, is people’s fickling moods.
c. You are the creator of time.
Why are you waiting for time to teach you the lessons?
d. Most importantly, the world just opens up for the human being who is ever flowing and giving.
Stop needing love from others and take it from God and give it to others. You will be fulfilled like never before!
Exhaustion, even physical, is mental exhaustion.
Btw, today my therapist said something quite cool: Even though you did something that was not legit, your pain, your emotions, what you went through was legit.
You did what you knew best. Now you know better, so now you are doing better. But then that is what you knew the best. And you did whatever you could.
Then what’s the point of blaming yourself for something that you did with lack of awareness years ago?
That was helpful. And exhausting as well maybe. But sort of loving our sessions 🙂
Therapy is helping me.
I’m also getting broken into pieces.
But therapy is the glue that helps me fix them, instead of the cement that helps me conceal them. And that’s powreful.
Also, life is beautiful 🙂
Love. Such a beautiful word.
We are born with it. We are not taught how to love. It is our real nature. We come along with it.
We smile at our family and strangers alike.
We talk to anyone and everyone irrespective of their colour or race.
We trust people for who they are.
We forgive quickly.
We are just real, with no judgements, no gossip, and definitely no need to control anyone.
This is who we are when we were born – real and untainted.
Then a terrible thing happened.
We realised the world does not function this way. The world is sadly living in a manufactured definition of love.
Where we will be loved when we recite a poetry in front of our relatives.
Where we will be loved when we get certain percentage in schools and colleges.
Where we will be loved when we pursue a life choice that isn’t ours but of people who “love” us.
Where we will be loved when we agree to making “love” with a partner otherwise they will question our character.
Where we will be loved by our “friends” if and only if we gossip with them about other friends.
And if we do none of these and walk our own talk, we will not be loved.
Be like him.
Talk like her.
Look at what he has accomplished.
Words and people that were meant to make us rise, end up diminishing our self confidence infinitely.
And then we wonder why don’t we feel the love we used to feel as a kid.
At this point, each one of us has two choices:
Most of us fall for the first one. Not because we cannot hear our inner voice. But because the external voices of manufactured love will stop coming to us if we love ourselves. And that’s scary.
Very few of us, very very few of us, who take the plunge to love ourselves, live a life of real luxury. There are roadblocks and hurdles at the start, but when you overcome them (and you always do), what comes out is You. Real You. Who is love. Not manufactured. Rather real love. And then solving all problems becomes a skill that gets compounded and works in your favour 🙂
Every single day, we have two choices – be the Real Love or fall for Manufactured Love. It is not a one-time choice. It is a daily choice.
The choices that we make daily, will determine how much real love we become.
And give to the people looking at us to show them how the world works.
1. Think in questions.
2. Don’t send that email.
3. Surround yourself with the right books.
4. Workouts are therapy.
5. Dance, baby!
I did not love myself at all, when I was in two toxic relationships:
I lol at myself how I was such a fool to call such instances “love”.
Anyway, those were idiotic steps on my part. But today I received a finalised video about a project that I’m working on. And life’s come a full circle!
Don’t know what would happen to this project, but I’m glad to have never quit and didn’t choose this kind of “love”.
If you have a choice between love and career, do they really love you if they don’t love your choice for your career?
PS: In the new project, I was looking exactly opposite of what these gentlemen wanted me to look like. Self love is super power! Happy Valentine’s Day peops! Hope you love yourself 🙂
One of my closest friend in school brought up this topic once. We were just seated in our bus after school, and were waiting for everyone else to come.
“Nishtha,” she said, “you know what, I am ashamed to admit it, however it’s true a woman is another woman’s biggest enemy.”
Years later, her words are making me reflect deeply these days.
We talk about gender inequality, equal rights for women at home, sharing of responsibilities at home, etc., and yes men do need to wake and shake themselves up, however a lot of women don’t feel they deserve the good that men are entitled to.
So, if you are someone (man or a woman) who believes in equality, start with not saying these five things to any woman you respect or would want to be respected.
It’ll make the world better for your daughters and sisters.