We should try to get our family and friends rid of it.
Even if they do it out of love, a part of me believes there is an absolute pressure to perform, to make the other person like what you did for them.
I have never done it for anyone else, so forgive me for being so naive, if I am one.
But once-a-year surprises are honestly scary. What if whenever we talk to that friend or family, we really listen and care? What if we are a bit kinder in our messages to them? What if we stop talking about ourselves a lot often and be curious about them?
Isn’t all this better than a once-a-year surprise?
Loving people and making them feel good isn’t wrong.
Just that if you do it on one special day, the weight of it stays on so long that we forget the tiny things of the other 364 days.
Loving people and making them feel good should be our year long responsibility (and joy) for them.
