Next time you have coffee with someone whom you really admire, ask them their story.
What failures brought them there?
What made them choose this path?
Their response to critical times?
What was it like losing friendships?
How uncomfortable it was being you?
How did they handle what other people thought of them?
How did they decide to change themselves and not change other people? (2-minute video worth considering)
What kept them up and going?
How did they handle subtle criticism from family and closest of friends?
It turns out, any area in life is a game of averages. (That is why we were taught averages in middle school as essential subject.) The more we learn to handle what is bringing us down, the more we can use that as a fuel to launch higher next time.