Imagine a time you were expecting a normal day at work or were expecting borderline scolding from your boss, but you ended up being applauded beyond measure. Perhaps your best one to date.
Or imagine a time you did your best work, broke all your records, went on the offense and created results you could never have imagined. However, as a result, you were scolded for a tiny, irrelevant action of yours; and it created a huge hiatus.
It turns out, sometimes, people do not know they are not operating out of rationality. Their bad moods and lack of self-awareness of that bad mood takes over, blurring the reality.
Thus, you needn’t take anything others do, personally.
If someone is nice to you, it is because they are truly a nice person. If someone isn’t nice to you, it is because they are currently not operating out of their nicest virtues.
Praise and criticism. Love and hate. Virtues and vices. Everything we receive – none of it is about us. Okay most of it. It is about people.
It helps us accept that what we are is defined by what we tell ourselves, and no one else.
It helps us be emotionally independent.
It allows us to let go of unreal expectations on others to be nice, and take the baton of goodness in our hands.
That is how it should be. That is how it should have been since forever.
