Your number one responsibility towards yourself is to not consider someone’s momentary silence equal to rejection.
In desi households where growing up in fear and not being vulnerable and respectful to kids was the norm, silence prevailing in the atmosphere was usually a sign of a storm just ended.
Usually it ensued after a fight between two family members. Speaking a word meant being reprimanded for no fault of yours.
Little do you realise, that silence still goes on to haunt you for years after you have moved out of that home and space.
If a friend isn’t responding to text, she doesn’t love me anymore.
If a client isn’t giving positive feedback, their silence means negative feedback.
If a boss hasn’t appreciated your work off-late, they are considering letting you go.
We make the mistake of connecting every small silence to our perceived incapability and lack of self-worth, that when something good happens, we almost believe we never deserved it in the first place.
Your number one job, my friend, is to heal yourself, so that you allow good things to happen to you. And accept them when they do.
Affirmations. Good books. Journalling. Meditation. Therapy. Sports. YouTube videos. Good blogs. Articles. EBooks.
Do anything and everything you can, to make yourself believe in yourself with utmost confidence. This one attitude, will make you figure out life, no matter what.
