A friendship that turned sour.
A colleague that became resistant all of a sudden.
Any other relationship that broke apart without visible tremors.
Whenever we have such a breakup, all we want is a closure.
“What if they just tell me why they did so, even if it is my mistake, I’d be fine. I just want a closure. That’s it.”
But there is a fundamental problem, though:
Most people do not think like you.
Had they had to give you a closure, they would have made an attempt to do it. If not immediately, certainly later on.
There have also been times I have initiated a closure from someone else, and what I have received is shocking:
They (friend/colleague/sibling) were not even aware I was moaning that relationship breakup.
Did not happen just in one case, rather a lot of them.
It turns out, we view our life events through our lens. No matter how much we convey, the other person will view at that as per their lens. Just like we will view it as per our lens. This zigging and zagging only complicates things further.
The best closure, then, my friend, is to forgive the pain of that suffering, remember the lesson, not make the same mistake, and move on. All without seeing the closure from the other person.
This is the best closure you could ever get. The one that will truly settle you down.
