Harsh truths about meetings

Ask a human being to sit alone and write 5 short sentences on what they are thinking, and they will hate you. Ask a human being to get into a meeting to “discuss something important” and they are ready to waste their 4 hours immediately.

Most 12-people meetings could be 2-people meetings, but people don’t have meetings to do important work. They have meetings to appear important.

Meetings are basically a group of people with the same points of view coming together to validate their beliefs, and conceal action in the mask of “we are having a meeting.”

If we truly want to have a meeting, have every agenda written in advance, circulated to every member at least a day in advance, and ask them to come up with their ideas before they enter the meeting. Most people would think this is a time waste, but sadly think wasting long hours in an unprepared meeting is productive!

After people become a “manager” there is an irresistible urge in people to “get things done” and “have meetings”, that they forget that they also have to do the hard work of understanding when is a meeting really needed. But wait, I don’t want to do the work, so let me just waste everyone else’s time as well! Anyway just because they don’t speak as much as I do, they are anyway useless!

Never have a meeting with someone who works till late hours consistently. You can’t expect someone to respect your time if they don’t respect their own.

A child who doesn’t get attention as a kid grows up to become an adult who conducts a lot of meetings.

A working woman who doesn’t take care of herself goes on to become a leader that demands meetings.

The human who doesn’t have a relationship with themselves forces others to validate that hole by having tons of useless meetings. Now the hole isn’t visible!

We don’t want to think. We don’t want to write an email. So we have a meeting. 🙁

Planning and meeting are different things. Plan asynchronously. Meet with a fixed deadline. To align everyone together. Not necessary imo, still.

Human beings work hard to spend their lives in meetings with no conclusion.