I know of someone who has a habit of pointing out flaws in the most perfect things.
It is also topped by an acute need to micromanage and make sure to control the trivialities. Translated: Focus too much on things that don’t matter in the first place.
As a result, what happens is they lose their trust. Which means, even if they point out the right thing (which truly happens one in 100), no one really trusts them. Because they have already poked at 99 right things to be wrong.
Trust is a compound effect. People start with a baseline moment, but every action of yours either builds it up further, or erodes it.
Then the moment you do the opposite of what you have always been doing, people know this is stemming from your habit to micromanage and your deep insecurity, instead of believing it is a truth.
Reminds me of the villager who would often shout at night to fellow villagers, “Wake up, run away. We have a lion in the village.”
There wasn’t any. Happened for days and weeks. There wasn’t any.
Until one day, the lion was finally there and no one believed the villager.
Let go of your insecurity and make way for inclusion of truth. It helps you be someone people could trust, instead of being someone people would never trust.
You want trust, don’t you?