7 life lessons no one teaches you about succeeding at work:
- If you are taking up extra work, it goes without saying that it will not affect your existing work.
- You can be best friends. Or you can do your work without biases. You can’t do both.
- If no one has to follow up with you, you are gold.
- Keeping your commitments and sharing your work status – are the two things that will make you a star.
- It is not the hours of work you put in. It is the heart in those hours you put in – that makes the entire difference!
- When you start giving away credit, you stop craving for it in the first place.
- Read #4 again.
Just completed a trip with my team.
Few life lessons learnt:
- If being a friend interferes with your ability to become a leader, helps to be the leader first.
- Talk about others in your mind just like you talk to them about them.
- Learn to value loneliness.
- Before loving others, have you tried to love yourself?
- Only broken people break people.
Also, a note to 2-3 of my teammates whom I know I wasn’t 100% present with:
I’m sorry. I can do better. I love you, no matter how much or how little we spoke during this offsite.
Also, you are an amazing kid. Let no one else make you believe otherwise.
Recently I happened to conduct the hiring process for a team member, starting from creating the form to making them run through several steps of hiring, and here are some life lessons I learnt:
1. People will reveal themselves if you just sit and listen.
2. Be real. I had fun while talking with them, did not ask weird interview questions, and more than anything else, made the conversation interesting for them by researching about them before the interview.
3. While you may come across many sad stories that you may want to give them the job even though they are not eligible, it’s best to not give them the job. Because it will set them up for failure anyway. Not the best thing to happen to them.
Recent life lessons from being a manager:
- When you do something that might come as offensive to the other person but in reality happens as a result of their neglect, sometimes mentioning the reason why you did it is important.
- People who are assets won’t give away their work (under pressure) even if you ask them to. The good way is to ask the one who is filling in for them, to take work from them. Always works!
- You may try your best to help a non-performing team member – by asking questions, suggesting them, presenting your PoVs. If they still don’t move, start taking actions and FYI-ing them. Not because you want to dominate them. NO! You’ve already tried your best. Rather because you do not want the work to suffer anymore, if the person responsible for it anyway can’t take ownership.
Life lessons from being a manager:
- Your team will always be going through stuff – someone is in an airplane, someone is shifting, someone is occupied, someone will not respond, someone might be going through a break up – and asking them to work might make you feel apologetic. Why? Be the one who is there for them, helps them navigate life without excuses, and more than anything else – lets them shine in every area of life.
- Give away credit when you need it the most.
- Indulging in gossip groups with a subset of team is disastrous for the team. Not to mention, for you as well. Your team loves you, and you owe it to them to be unbiased.
- Taking time off for meditation and sleep isn’t luxury, it is a necessity.
- Karma yoga – where you say your affirmations and meditate for one minute – that is where all the magic happens. Doing it or not doing it will decide whether you are effective or impulsive.
- You may try your best on people and they may still choose to be angry at you, and then leave the company. If you have a pact of honesty with yourself, you need not feel bad. At all. People have their lives and they own their choices, not your mood.
- Chill baby, you have the Brahmastra – God. Everything else, will just fall in place.
Life lessons from being a manager:
1. You can be kind and assertive. You must be.
2. Raising your words and calming down your words is the balance you have to know.
3. Trust people, but push them to be better.
4. You don’t need to be on email and WhatsApp all the time.
5. You cannot be friends with your colleagues. You can either be friends or get strict work done. Can’t do both.
Since I’m juggling with my new role as a manager, I’m documenting all my experiences in this category of my blog.
Some recent life lessons:
- No one will value your time unless you do.
- Kindness is superpower.
- Be prepared for every type of issues. It will make you calmer.
- Give away the credit.
- Trust, but verify
- Appreciate in public. Criticise in person.
- Keep writing. NEVER EVER EVER EVERRR stop.
- Empathy. Be there for them. But don’t allow for lethargy in work.
- You can be friends and chill around; or get work done. Can’t do both.
- When you get work done, though, it does not mean that you have to be rude. You can still be fun and chill, but friendship is another dimension.
- Be kind when they screw up. We have NO IDEA what they are going through.
- Be honest. Because YOU are watching.
- What you think about your team in your head, is what will manifest on the outside.
- You don’t HAVE to speak when there is nothing to speak.
- If you do not require any follow-up, you are GOLD.
- If you follow-up with people when they are supposed to deliver, it shows how diligent you are.
- Leave signatures through your work and your vibes.
- Measure yourself. Because what does not get measured, is not treasured.
- Writing a progress mail to your manager helps. You get to know where you are, and where you could be going.
- And, don’t be too harsh on yourself.
The more you care only about getting positive feedback, the more you will escape your growth.
Your work is to excel at your work. If you’re constantly degrading at it, you’re making it impossible for others to trust you.
Don’t focus on being liked. Focus on being curious, learning, and really really listening!
Don’t send that angry message / email. Calm yourself down.
People are people. They are going to overestimate what they do. So don’t feel let down when they
You won’t be a superhero when you commit to doing 10 projects and you do 6. You will be a superhero when you commit 6 and do 6. Your words matter. A lot.
Don’t try to impress your boss. Or anyone. The more you try to do that, they will sniff it. They just expect you to be real. And do the good old hard work. Along with the smart one.
Talk to your boss. Talk about your problems, what’s troubling you, what isn’t working, etc. Don’t expect him to get back to you every single day.
But, at the end of the day, you should be happy going to work each day 🙂