10 years ago

Mark Manson asked a question on Twitter today: List three things you wish you understood 10 years ago.

Here’s my response:

1. To say no in a potential relationship, where you know it ain’t going to work, is power.

2. Invest in equity.

3. Build a community.

PS: I was already working out, meditating, reading books and eating right at that point. So missed out these basics 🙂

There’s nothing wrong with Instagram!

Today I attended a wonderful master class by Nir Eyal, author of the book Indistractable.

Some wonderful things he said:

1. Schedule everything – learning, work, leisure, family time, sleeping time, free time social media and even OTG!

2. To-Do lists should be done away with, because no one accomplishes all of those daily.

3. Instead, do whatever you had desired to accomplish during that time. That is powerful! You’ll then end up achieving MORE than your To-Do list.

4. Life is NOT about getting things done. Rather spend 30-45 minutes daily, thinking.

5. And last resort, make an identity pact: Is what you are doing aligned with who you are?

Very very thoughtful! This master class is definitely going to be a masterpiece.

A peek into my DM’s

People reach out on social media to get work done. Quite normal.

But I don’t do this kinda work 🙂

Some of the reactions of my team members:

1. I have a nibha. I can assist you in writing 🤣🤣🤣

2. I have some unsent letters, lemme know if you want to use them. Doing a giveaway 🙂

3. O boy, ye bhi outsource hota hai?

And many 🤣🤣🤣 emojis.

Have you ever done something weird like this?

Boss Lady

To be a boss lady, you do not have to become the boss of the team. You just have to be the boss of your life.

Lemme show that to you with an example:

Pic 1
Pic 2

If you observe closely, in Pic 1 I am having a fake smile versus I’m just being a natural in Pic 2.

Why so? Because that day I was going to do something that I should have said no to. So I was not in my best frame of mind. It is from 2018.

In pic 2, from March 2021, I’m just myself all the time. Being happy, saying no to things that don’t matter, and more than anything else, being the boss of my life.

So, if you want to be the Boss Lady, just live your life on your own terms. And not to impress anyone.

Life updates

1. Life’s good. Enjoying work. And non-work.

2. Tried buying an iPad from Apple site, no deliveries as of now. Beta, thode din aur 🙂

3. Mom will make ice cream tomorrow. Since I cannot eat anything beyond dal rice roti subzi (i.e., no chhole, rajma, curry, mathri, etc.,) due to surgery, we came to a softer, easily digestible option.

4. Looking at the quantum of work I do, should I start charging more? Nope. I’ll manifest it. And let people pay me more out of will.

5. A prospect who converted has a problem understanding whatever I write on emails / messages. So then we have to get on a call. The entire process wastes a lot of time for me. Thinking of saying no to them tomorrow. Time is money. Not that I have communication issues. Rest all work perfectly well with messages / emails and once a week / fortnight calls.

6. Waiting to tell the new job info to my team at the right time 🙂

7. Gotta respond to the diligent guy who worked on the website. Been long.

8. Content, content, quiz, class, posting, uploading – six huge tasks for tomorrow. Gonna be fun.

9. Also gotta file the claim for hospitalisation. Saturday.

10. Did I tell you, idli still tastes good, despite having it a lot of times post surgery?

That’s it folks, stay safe and keep rocking 🤘🏻

Jobless for a year

Last year, I resigned from my job in March 2020, got relieved in June 2020.

Started freelancing then. Learnt multiple ways of sourcing new clients. Did wonderful work. Made a bit less than my salary but absolutely loved every day of the last one year.

After all this hustle, this April I got myself to a place where I was making more than my last drawn salary. And lo and behold, I got a job offer (that begins on 1st June) for a job I love.

So I said no to some of the prospective clients, said yes to working with some of those along with working full time on the job. And I guess we will 2X my last drawn salary at the start of the new job, leaving how things take us further to the future.

So, it is easy to demotivate myself by saying “I was jobless for a year”. Well, this is how society has conditioned us to believe.

Except, the truth is:

1. I finally had the courage to pursue my passion of writing, by giving up the stability of a full time job.

2. That taught me sales, negotiation and persuasion skills, along with polishing my skill set as a writer.

3. I was able to try an internship in content creation, among other things, that finally lead me to having a full-time job as Content Manager with one of the top brands of India.

4. I was responsible and accountable for my time.

5. I was finally not killing myself daily.

Thus, I was (and still am) living a life of choice. A privilege a lot of us have however very few of us have the courage to live by it.

The best part? For the first time in life I’m going for a job for which there is no degree on my resume, just a skill set and an experience to prove its mettle. Isn’t that amazing? 🤩

Food for thought

When riches come, they come in so much abundance that you would keep wondering where they had been hiding for so long – Napoleon Hill, Think and Grow Rich.

However, richness is a state of mind. When you know you are rich, nothing can stop you. When you have accepted you are poor, no one can stop you either.

That said, why do we believe we are poor?

Because that is what we have been inculated since childhood.
Because we have been taught that money is evil.
Because we think money makes you bad.

PS: I am talking about all forms of wealth, not just cash.

Here is the thing: When we have more of anything, it just makes us a magnified version of who we are.

And who we are, is a choice we make every single day.
So, what is the choice we’re making today?

Is it something that you really want?

The world is glorifying what they have done.
Making all attempts to get famous (nothing wrong btw).
Or justifying why their parents failed them.

I get that.
I hear that.
I understand where you are coming from.

The only question is: Do you really want it?

If yes, please stop reading this right now.

However, if what you are chasing is something you don’t like fully, perhaps today is a good day to start with thinking alone for 30 minutes. Don’t you think so?

Just one, just one!

You’re just one video / one book away from a better mood.

You’re just one chat away from a worse mood.

And you’re just one pause of silence away from discovering the plethora of joy within you.

Which one will you start with today?

Best friends

There are good friends. We all have them.
Those who understand us, are there for us, but show their true colours some time or the other.

Then there are best friends.
You don’t talk to them often. Hardly chat on the phone.
But they are true to you – with you or without you.

Having such friends is priceless. And if you don’t have one, are you that “one” friend for yourself?