What to do when you feel empty?

When we feel empty, most of us navigate to social media.

Except that it doesn’t help.

Instead, what really helps is appreciation.

Whenever we are appreciated by someone, we feel a sense of validation.

Except, that it won’t come always.

So why not appreciate ourselves every time?

Why not be grateful for what is working?

Why not, be our own cheerleader?

Of course we can, when we can do it all the time for others.

What’s the cost of your dreams?

What is the cost of living life on your own terms?

You will be criticised by people who aren’t living their life on their own terms.

Don’t blame them, have sympathy for them.

Don’t wait for them to say sorry, you forgive them.

More than anything else, don’t stop when they want to live life according to you. They aren’t happy, you please don’t give up on yours because of their lack of it. The best way to make someone happy is to be happy yourself

Why do we hide our emotions?

What if a recruiter found a profile of gold and expressed the candidate clearly how good they were?

What if an influencer thanked a fan from the bottom of their heart when they did a nice gesture for them?

What if a boss voluntarily thanked an employee for the contribution they brought on the table?

We don’t express our truest emotions in our work because when we were on the receiving side of things, this is how the world worked.

The world we live in, is the world we have so meticulously created. So does the power to change vest onto us. How will we use it?

A note on trust

Trust yourself, as much as you trust others.

Trust yourself more often.

Trust others more often.

Trust the pain, because it solely is responsible for making you enjoy the joy of life.

Trust your hard work, it never goes to vain.

Trust your parents, even when you don’t want to.

Trust your friends, they are there for you – anytime and any place.

Trust your work, coz it will go out into the world and do more good.

More than anything else, trust yourself. You have handled worse in the past. This too, shall pass.

It’s okay when it’s not okay

It’s okay to have unanswered emails.

It’s okay to miss a Zoom meeting on purpose.

It’s okay to not follow a schedule once a blue moon.

It’s okay to disagree with your loved ones.

It’s okay to buy and have things in way less than what you earn.

It’s okay, to be okay when it’s not okay. Okay?

How I broke an old habit

For several months, I’ve been trying to change a habit of mine, which is: to not check work related WhatsApp messages and emails on Sundays.

However, despite multiple efforts, wasn’t able to get off the habit.

Same thing happened yesterday. I attended to work messages in the first half.

In the second half, I went to play badminton with my nephews and nieces. As a result, when I came back, still I didn’t open their WhatsApps. I didn’t have the urge in the first place!

It shows the power of physical activity on our mind, and how much controlling power we have.

No matter how important or urgent the work is, nothing is more important than the much-needed nothingness.

The story of overnight success

The story of overnight success.

1. The “rasoda” jam singer Yashraj Mukhate recently moved from 30K+ followers on Instagram to 943K+ followers.

2. The singer Lisa Mishra recorded a combo of “Taareefaan” and “Let me love you” and few days later, she was called by Rhea Kapoor to sing a playback.

3. Elizabeth Gilbert was struggling before “Eat Pray Love’ came up, after which she even graced the Oscars.

What we see as overnight success of all these people, we fail to recognise that:

1. They had been creating content for long before the “overnight success” happened.

2. The life altering success happened just once, however they continued their relevance by working hard on future projects, instead of being complacent.

What is this trying to teach us?

1. It takes the good old hard work to get to the success.

2. It takes hard work even when we don’t feel like doing it.

3. Maybe very few of us will have this overnight success, however, we will always have a version of success where we were proud while going to bed, instead of being regretful.

It’s a choice we get to make, every single day.

The meaning of mistakes

One of the most fascinating things about life is mistakes.

More interesting than mistakes, is about studying people who make mistakes.

There are three kinds of people:

1. Who realise they have made a mistake, admit it, and try not to make the same mistake twice.

They are the top 1% of the world. Even if they are not famous, they are indispensable in whatever they do.

2. Who realise they have made a mistake, and don’t admit it.

The three-letter word comes in. However, there is still hope that they will learn from their mistakes, even silently.

3. Who do not realise they have made a mistake.

They are the people in deepest pain, and aren’t aware of it.

As much as we’d hate admitting it, we all are surrounded by someone in each category, the third one being the most vulnerable ones.

Small tips:

a. Bless them.

b. Focus on the good in your life versus the opposite in their life.

c. Chill man!

Everyone is fighting a silent battle we aren’t aware of.

The joy of life, is learning to deal with these people in an effortless manner, that you be responsible for not allowing anyone to take your happiness away.

Effortlessly.