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A Delhi-ite
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Disturbing in Simla vacation
Couple of days back, I had an inpromptu plan to visit Delhi, where I live. (PS: I am in the last month of my stay at my hometown these days :D)
When I called up my landlord a day prior to my reach, he and Aunty were in Simla, for a short break.
Yet, here’s what Uncle arranged to do for me:
– Asked his brother in law to come home and take out my room’s keys to the kitchen, which was being used by the servant.
– Told the servant to clean my room
– Told the servant to make sure he opens up the main gate, as I wasn’t having the keys
All this, while vacationing.
They didn’t have to do that, yet they did. As a matter of fact, upon reaching my apartment, I texted Uncle instead of calling him so as to not to disturb them, thanking for everything. He replied with taking the help of the servant, if I needed anything.
Just wow!
But why are we talking about it?
Because in a lot of homes, it is considered taboo to get out of your way to help anyone in family, let alone tenants.
In a sad culture that has been instilled, it is thought that if someone is helping us, it should be with some ulterior motive.
And if that was not enough, kids are taught that they should never talk to strangers, let alone help them.
No wonder why that generation has grown up to become mentally ill generation.
That said, if you are able to read this, you have the power to parent yourself. What our parents and our culture did to us is bad, however, if we replicate that to ourselves, nothing could be worse.
So, help others out. It will not be a disturbance on your Simla vacation. Be the one who is a giver, and EVERYTHING else in life, will be well taken care of.
Ramit Sethi’s first Indian talk & an untold story
Last night, as I reached home I quickly dug out Ramit Sethi’s book “I Will Teach You To Be Rich” from my library. Of course, the man himself was giving a talk in Delhi the next day, so it would’ve been a pleasure to get a signed copy.
As the morning would have it, I forgot to carry the book before leaving from home, and as I was driving, I decided not to go to the event. The lizard brain took over and said the excuses it has achieved a Ph. D. in giving:
“You’ve got a lot of work to do dude, do that first!”
“You could watch a ton of his videos online.”
“Sit back and meditate, and radiate good vibes to him.”
All of the above had started to seem so logical, when I was reminded of an instance when Ramit had travelled out of NYC to give an interview with Tim Ferris. Tim invited him for dinner with another entrepreneur, and Ramit instantly got his flight canceled and booked for the next day.
If Ramit could cancel his flight appointments and change his schedule, it made no sense for me to not go to the event being in Delhi itself.
So here did yours truly reach the event, and will share you all the takeaways from the wonderful two hours we all spent together, particularly that part of his which we don’t often get to see online.
Of course we did speak about creating our own versions of rich life, the way Ramit ignores the usual norm of ignoring the trolls, or how he stresses the importance of college education versus taking a course to drop out and make money.
All the above advice is super valuable, and has hugely shaped my perspectives about life, however I wanted to present to you something that you and I, as online spectators, couldn’t see.
Let’s dive right in:
1. The Unseen Side of India:
Ramit shared he visited India thrice in the last two years, and as he shared and keeps on sharing stories about his visits to India, people are pleasantly shocked to see it.
Since he has a global audience, particularly in the US, they never saw this side of India – where he was living in luxury hotels on one side, and exploring the best street food along with it.
When non-Indians look at this side of India and DM him about the fact that they wish to visit India because of these stories, it feels proud to listen this as an Indian. Padhaaro mhaare des! (Meaning: Welcome to my country!)
2. Ask, and you shall receive:
Ramit didn’t plan to have a meet-up in Delhi before flying off from the States. He bumped into a friend, and when he asked if Ramit was planning to have an event in Delhi, his answer remained the same.
While checking on his Instagram stories, I happened to DM him to organize a meet-up for Delhi people.
Today at the event, he said when 10-15 people sent him similar DMs, he finally decided to have an event.
Here’s the back-story: If you and I and a bunch of other people were those 15 people and we wouldn’t have DMed him, chances were, this event won’t have happened.
Do not question your actions if you are doing something good. You may never know how much of an impact it could make.
Also, don’t take a no on behalf of others. If they say yes, great! If they say no, no worries Bro, chill!
3. The Family Values:
One of the most intriguing things about this New York Times bestselling author was he brought his family along to the event.
That’s the real definition of an Influencer: who, in the process of influencing the world, does not take his family for granted to sitting back at home.
Maybe meeting us, his readers, was a part of his rich life, and he wanted his family to take the ride with him, instead of see him at a distance.
This may be an incomprehensible thing for a lot of us, especially for those who are not so close-knit with their families.
Maybe wearing their shoes and respectfully, showing them our side decisions, maybe that could move the needle. Family matters, and let your favourite influencer’s actions tell that loud to you.
4. The higher you rise, more humble you become:
The man was extremely polite and listening to all of us with patience
What’s new, you ask.
I’ve been to a ton of such events with people having way less followers and even money than what Ramit Sethi has, and they reply with anger and sometimes even rudeness.
Their body language does not show respect for the other person, maybe because the other person hasn’t achieved as much as they have.
Fortunately, you couldn’t see a trace of that rudeness in Ramit. He was listening to every one of us. Even if his mind he didn’t agree with someone on what they said, he didn’t take that as a license to be rude.
He even thanked someone who had purchased two of his online courses. (PS: He has a massive business with millions of readers, he didn’t need to thank. However, he did. Because it came out subconsciously. Because he meant it in the first place.)
Humanity is what you get to exchange first, and that should be an inevitable part of everyone’s rich life.
5. What’s the cost:
This is the question Ramit gets asked the most, for the luxury vacations he takes. In response to that, he invited us to consider:
What if cost was not the #1 thing on your priority list?
What if you did what you always wanted to do?
What if, it was really possible to turn the knob and learn to use money in a way you actually want to?
Here’s offering you a different perspective:
I’ve taken one of his paid courses, and in that, he also disclosed his hourly rates of consultation. Contrary to his huge rates, today’s event was free, with mandatory registration. And it was not a “B” grade event; rather it was in a co-working space in Saket, one of the costliest places in Delhi NCR.
If someone would’ve still considered cost, maybe they won’t have even swiped up on Ramit’s story to fill in the registration form.
If something is important to you, you find a way to get there.
You make the best of opportunities, you give away enormous value to your customers, and you make your version of rich life a priority instead of chucking it out altogether.
These were the visible things which everyone learnt in today’s event. On the top of it, here are some unspoken things that were more than appreciable:
1. Learning is a choice:
Had a small conversation with Ramit’s Mom, and she told me she settled in the US after getting married. All four of her kids were born there.
Here’s something she said that really hit a huge mark.
She said, that she also tried understanding and learning about the culture of US along with her kids; along with instilling family values in them. She and her husband didn’t try to impose everything from Indian culture to their kids, nor did they give up on teaching the tight and important knot of family values of Indian culture.
And today here she was, proudly telling me she is a ZTL student and also a blogger, because of her son. It felt powerful as well as touching to have this conversation about staying open, with no compromise on your core values.
2. Care at the core:
While I was having this conversation with Ramit’s Mom, Cass, Ramit’s wife walks up to us and hands over the cake which he had just been cut. This small gesture of kindness by Cass showed so well, of paying attention to people who are most important to you.
Not out of any selfish reasons, rather because you love them and you care. So you dig out a moment to do that extremely adorable gesture of giving a piece of cake.
In fact, Cass also flew down Ramit’s parents from California to New York when his picture along with his book made it to the Times Square in NYC. Love and care, over and above business lessons, was one of the most fascinating takeaways from today.
3. Fitness is superpower:
Ramit and Cass take damn great care of their health. Even though in some of his stories he posts about having paranthas or enjoying different meals, the couple still looked lean and perfectly fit. What I mean by this is, even when they are trying different cuisines and exploring different cultures, health does not take a back seat. Talk priorities. Talk rich life.
These were some of the visible and invisible lessons from today’s event, that was totally fun to be around.
And of course, event was followed by some selfies and book signings and winning the second edition of the book.
It’s powerful when you shut down your lizard brain and get into a room with such powerfully minded people. All the small things about people and things and checking social media, take a back seat, and out emerges a mind more focused on creating its own version of rich life.
One such event happened on a Tuesday (a.k.a. working day) at 3PM in New Delhi. Here’s to having many more such powerful events.
Till then, let me know which part of the event you liked the most and why. I’d love to see your side of the story.
Traffic is epic. Trust it.
Delhi traffic is epic.
Okay, before you rightly label me a psycho, here’s why:
The moments when we are crawling in our Uber or our car for traffic to get over… a moment comes on the same road…
…that all the vehicles start having their freely flying moment (equate it to “Ja Simran ja, jee le apni zindagi!)
The point here is this:
There is usually
ONE truck, or
ONE bus, or
ONE crane, or
ONE car
that is parked on the side of the road and easily troubling hundreds of commuters.
Btw, what’s that ONE thing in our own heads, that stops the smooth functioning of all our dreams and wonderful productivity, with a sudden brake from freely flowing fifth gear?
What if we overcame that ONE thing by replacing it with a strength of ours?