Get in emotional action. Own your life, and inspire others to do the same.
This morning I had an undeniable urge to eat sugar. Chocolate cake + cold coffee to be precise.
With only one problem: Had I baked the chocolate cake, I would have to eat it daily.
Not that eating it is a problem, rather I’d love it!
The only problem being, it is not good for the health, baby 🙂
So I made myself a chocolate shake, and sipped it with a laddoo.
Sweet for the day, and no sweets for tomorrow. Win-win!!
Most people don’t want to support your dreams – even if on the outside they appear to.
Most people want you to work for their dreams.
Sad, but true.
Work, but work for yourself as well.
And you shall never sleep unhappily.
Off-late, I have restarted my age old habit of evening walks, and I couldn’t be happier!
Some benefits:
1. Gives much needed mobility to the body.
2. Makes my intuition active, instead of seeking refute in the screen.
3. I get fresh oxygen!
4. Get to witness so many stories.
5. My eyes change their focus, and that’s awesome.
6. I have ideas for writing, just like this one.
7. I learn to forgive without being asked for.
8. I get the much needed me time without devices. (PS: I don’t carry my phone, nor do I wear my smart watch there.)
9. It is a discipline that is so much fun, that you cannot not do it! And that’s beautiful 🙂
1. Staring out of the balcony
2. Writing without editing (this blog is the only place where I write without editing)
3. Blessing those who hurt you
Think of an unhappy person around you.
Most probably, they would have a constant reason for unhappiness in their life – a job, a relationship, anything they hate.
Then, go back to the time when that relationship / job didn’t exist. Before that, there was something else that kept them unhappy.
It turns out, being unhappy is never dependent on life situations. It is always a factor of how you deal with life situations.
I have seen happy people boldly get out of jobs they didn’t like. Meanwhile, they still made sure to be happy at it.
I have seen happy people be happy despite the pay cuts during the pandemic. Because they chose to be happy.
Also, I have seen unhappy people get more dissatisfied by the day, despite all they needed was there and was getting bigger.
The more we realise happiness is a choice, the more will we be able to make the choice of being happy.
The right music
The right books
Getting away from the wrong people
Spending time in nature, working looking at nature
Workouts
Meditation
Saying NO
Do you have someone around you, who is not talking to you?
You’ve tried everything, yet there happens to be some mystery?
I came across this quote of Tony Robbins, that would help:
“The unhappy person resents it when you try to cheer him up, because that means he has to stop dwelling on himself and start paying attention to the universe. Unhappiness is the ultimate form of self-indulgence.” – Tony Robbins
Read that again. And again.
And then, bless them. And move on!
One of the most common causes of anxiety is getting intimidated by looking at so many happy faces in a Zoom call, and then wondering, if it is only your life that is screwed up.
Here’s a hack I have started doing recently, and it works really well: I just look at myself, and it really works.
Not from an ego sense, rather making sure my face radiates the positivity I want to stand for.
If I am positive, I will influence others.
If I am comparing myself to others, I will myself ruin my positivity.
This afternoon, my sister was sitting sad and lost.
When I asked her multiple times, she still didn’t respond.
My 3 yo nephew or her son, who was in her lap, I turned to him.
Told him, “Tell you Mom to smile.”
Do you know what he responded?
“I want watermelon!”
Wow. So cute. That is the level I want to get to in my life.
Here’s something I learnt from him:
So, my question to you is: Do you want watermelon?
Couple of days back, I had an inpromptu plan to visit Delhi, where I live. (PS: I am in the last month of my stay at my hometown these days :D)
When I called up my landlord a day prior to my reach, he and Aunty were in Simla, for a short break.
Yet, here’s what Uncle arranged to do for me:
– Asked his brother in law to come home and take out my room’s keys to the kitchen, which was being used by the servant.
– Told the servant to clean my room
– Told the servant to make sure he opens up the main gate, as I wasn’t having the keys
All this, while vacationing.
They didn’t have to do that, yet they did. As a matter of fact, upon reaching my apartment, I texted Uncle instead of calling him so as to not to disturb them, thanking for everything. He replied with taking the help of the servant, if I needed anything.
Just wow!
But why are we talking about it?
Because in a lot of homes, it is considered taboo to get out of your way to help anyone in family, let alone tenants.
In a sad culture that has been instilled, it is thought that if someone is helping us, it should be with some ulterior motive.
And if that was not enough, kids are taught that they should never talk to strangers, let alone help them.
No wonder why that generation has grown up to become mentally ill generation.
That said, if you are able to read this, you have the power to parent yourself. What our parents and our culture did to us is bad, however, if we replicate that to ourselves, nothing could be worse.
So, help others out. It will not be a disturbance on your Simla vacation. Be the one who is a giver, and EVERYTHING else in life, will be well taken care of.