With the mental health issues going to peak ten days back, I deliberately started taking extra care of myself.
Here’s what I realised:
- At the core of every mental health issue, is the need for happiness.
- When I didn’t get it, I felt a chaos in my mind.
- I almost (read: always) believed that if I am good to everyone, they should also be good to me. Unmindful of the fact, that everyone is going through the chaos in their minds as well (including our families)
- Taking care of yourself is something you will have to do. Otherwise we will always be dependent on the mood swings of others – and that is never a balanced place to settle on.
- Being happy is NOT a sin. Okay? Read it again if it was not clear to you.
Here’s what I have started doing now:
- Given up the need to impress everyone and make them happy. I have realised that even if I am happy and doing things to make them happy, if someone makes a conscious or unconscious choice to be upset, they will. Don’t take anyone personally.
- Love yourself like that is your job#1. For most people, this job even doesn’t make it to the list of their jobs.
- Stop justifying your actions all the time. I do not give a damn to what anyone else says yet don’t know how during this lockdown I started craving for the validation of my family. If you feel truthful and real in your work, you have done your job well. Anything and anyone that takes you away from peace is the one worth going away from.
- Imagine the best outcome. We all are the creators of our experiences. What we are today, is what we had imagined yesterday.
- This one is important. Treat people well even if you don’t listen to them or you know they are toxic. They are being them, and for whatever little time they get to hang around you, make sure to be kind to them. They are fighting a tough battle. Just like I needed people with my mental health issues, I realised they will also need kind people so that mental health issues don’t sink into them.
The journey is hard. Only if I label it so. Remember – creators of our experiences? Now I have unabashedly started living for my own happiness – without hurting others, however, not allowing anyone to enter that bubble and burst it.
There was one instance last week, where my Mom needed my help.
And I couldn’t.
More so, I’m glad I couldn’t.
I do not have membership of any OTT: Netflix, Prime, Hotstar – none.
This is something that I’m proud of – for saving hours of my precious time.
So last week when my Mom missed an episode of a serial, she asked me to search for it in Hotstar app.
And lo’ an behold, as much a techie I am, I couldn’t search for it! Tried and made errors, still no success!
A beautiful example of why ignorance is bliss and superpower sometimes.
While my Mom managed to forgive me, I just loved this non-awareness of mine.
Our mind, of course, is a beautiful garden that doesn’t deserve the seeds of hatred from the TV.
Do you have such a weird habit?
Today I attended a quiz. Strangers quiz. Organised by Shakti Shetty – the Zomato copywriting guy. With random people. Just out of the blue. Because why not? Let’s make the full use of Zoom barabar Zoom.
Was fun. You had to connect the dots.
The fun lied not in knowing, rather in the process of figuring things out.
- He made a wonderful, neat presentation with questions and answers.
- Not only that, different slides used different templates.
- If you interrupted someone else, you lose your marks.
- Why I loved the quiz was because Shakti is as real as he could get. He doesn’t use stuff like “Thank you so much for all the love” or “I am so happy for the wonderful fun here” or “any internet mumbo jumbo that all of us ‘aspiring’ famous people have coined ourselves to.” Just human. Just real. A fan of his art (that is always visible in his words and Insta stories) for life.
- Most importantly, it’s such an amazing feeling to connect with strangers, forgetting all your worries of the world, and come together just to have fun. Something that we have forgotten in this rat-race of figuring things out.
Would be attending more in the future! Yayyy!
A day will come…
When you will enter a crowded metro
Take out a snack from your bag and eat it there, and clean hands with your jeans.
And then you’ll smile at finally having reached there.
It’ll make you appreciate the metro crowd.
And when you do it, you’ll realise this solitude was all that you needed.
The best time to appreciate what you have, is now.
The goal is to get up from that “mood off” as quickly as possible.
Not by suppressing it.
– explaining yourself
– talking with yourself
– telling yourself that you can’t trade your happiness for someone else’s actions.
Inside is the way out.