The reason for getting sad is never the real reason.
These are not the real reasons. They are just drapes to cover up the original reasons.
The real reason is we are crying for something deeper.
We believe we don’t matter.
We think that our work doesn’t make an impact.
Or our presence doesn’t make anyone happy.
Or that everything will be happy even if we left.
Or perhaps that there will never be a tomorrow.
That is the real thing that makes us sad.
Think through it about what made you sad recently.
The reason was one of these.
However, the truth of life is this:
YOU are important.
YOUR work makes a difference.
YOUR absence would make things difficult.
YOU are needed.
This holds true irrespective of what ANYONE tells you.
Pause for a moment to read this.
1. Keep your good work.
2. Check before leaving (I bought full moong dal instead of broken).
3. No one will respect you unless you respect yourself.
The best meditators tell you that you do not need commentary to meditate.
Except, when I don’t.
It is quite understandable that when your brain is performing at its best, it does not need commentary.
However, if it is surrounded by loads of noise (real and virtual) from outside, it is never wrong to pick up commentary.
As you gain mastery, the need for commentary reduces.
The goal of meditation is to calm your self, not to repeat the uncalm version during the time you had set apart for meditation.
More I have stacked having lesser work that is more valuable and comes with bigger responsibilities, the more I’ve to started realise that having more times precious.
– “urgent work” is not important
– having a schedule is the way to get important things done.
– No is the biggest superpower.
It turns out, whatever we were taught in school – staying busy, working more, and saying yes in order to be liked – lose their power as we gain more wisdom.
1. The things that used to upset you do that anymore. Not even in your mind.
2. You learn from the times you lost money and don’t make the same money mistakes again.
3. You don’t lay the same expectations on people, if they have willingly proved they don’t want to stay true to the relationship (even blood relationships).
4. You find a way to laugh even amidst chaos.
5. You have replaced anger for people with empathy and sometimes even sympathy.
Growing up necessarily doesn’t mean in age. You may be in your 70’s and never learnt to control your anger.
Growth is a choice. The one that we make every single day.
In the absence of which, we just die.
I recently conducted an AMA on Instagram about the best thing that had happened to people in 2021 so far.
The responses were surprising.
While I had expected people to say things like got a new job, promotion, etc., most responses went with:
1. Started prioritising myself.
2. Taking care of what I want.
3. Took up yoga to for myself.
4. Moved to a new city.
5. Learnt to live on my own.
And so on and so forth.
Loved it! When people take care of themselves, they are able to take care of others more. Which isn’t true vice versa.
Looking forward to having more of them and seeing people get more powerful.
I have been creating content for more than five years now.
It was only yesterday that I realised that I have finally arrived. I wrote a post on LinkedIn that said:
“Changing WhatsApp DPs often is a sign of an unstable mind.”
Lo and behold, what trolling comments I got yesterday! My first troll series 🙂
And the best part is, there were bigger number of likes for that post. That is the nature of goodness. It is always in bigger numbers, just that it doesn’t need any evidence to back itself off.
On that note, if you don’t feel offended, let me ask you: How often do you change your WhatsApp DPS?
I almost forgot to write today’s blog post.
And now, while sleeping, reminded of that.
So, what is it about today?
Hmm, I’m thinking of charging for consulting as well over the call. Okay, the client is going to pay me beautifully when the work starts, however why do I behave like a fool and offer 2.5 hours of free consulting?
Nishtha, grow up!
No one will value you if you don’t do that to yourself.
That said, the last leg of brainstorming with the client is left, will seek guidance from God in meditation early morning tomorrow, if it is right to charge or be modest if the contract is already yours.
Chalo, good night peops!
Today there’s nothing much to say.
Lost a close Uncle. Had met him two days after Diwali, last month. Little did anyone of us know that this was the last one.
While we were cordial and cool in our last meeting, I do realise that we don’t know which one is going to be our last meeting.
Lesson: Treat every meeting with people like the last one. We never know.
Jab bhi kabhi
Jo zor se
Jhula jhulaate hain Maa
(Ab Papa jhula to nahi jhulate par metaphorical jhula jhulate hain)
Tu aake thaamegi Maa…
Unse main yeh kehta nahi
Par sehem jaata hu main Maa
(Shayad Maa bhi sehmi hui hai)
Chehre pe aane deta nahi
Dil hi dil mein ghabraata hu Maa
Tujhe sab hai pata
Hai na Maa
Tujhe sab hai pataaaa
Meri Maa ❣️