When will I have my own?

When will I have my own business?

When will I get to a place of not worrying about money?

Will someone ever believe in me?

Some questions do not have immediate answers.

But whenever I am confused about long-term choices in life, here is something that always helps me:

  1. Sitting and meditating
  2. Going for a nature walk
  3. Reading powerful stuff
  4. Journalling
  5. Becoming absolutely quiet

This is not a step-by-step process, rather a buffet – you can pick whatever you like, as per your taste and preference. And that’s beautiful 🙂

It’s over

That weird thing happened years ago.

Someone played with your heart 12 years ago.

Someone threw you out of their life 11 years ago.

Someone told you that you were not needed, 10 years ago.

Learn the lessons, forget the memory.
Allow yourself to heal, but do not allow that person again.
Be at peace and ease with past, but do not allow it to add to the present its cast.

Wouldn’t agree on this one…

I read somewhere that pain is just pain. Someone else’s intensity of pain doesn’t reduce your pain.

While most people may agree, I tend to disagree.

Someone else’s intensity of pain might be different from yours. And if we are unable to acknowledge that, it makes us more selfish and less empathetic.

If we are in pain and still can acknowledge someone else is in pain, we are truly a caring human being.

Do you also feel hurt?

Do you feel hurt by people?

You did good to them however they didn’t respond?

What if they didn’t hurt you?

What if they hurt your idea of how you should be treated?

No one, absolutely no one owes you anything. If they’re good, you’re lucky. If they aren’t good, you get stronger.

You will NEVER know

You will never know what someone else is going through.

Beneath their anger is the child their parents never spent time with.

Beneath their gossips is the inner hurts they never healed.

Beneath their frustrations with you is the frustration that they are not able to deal with their lives.

Beneath every pain they inflict upon you is the pain within them they are trying to deal with, and unable to do so.

It’s really not about you, as much as their hurting words and actions are about them.