Separation Anxiety

A colleague mentioned this term in a group, when he spoke about being away from his girlfriend.

Such word even exists?
Do people actually miss each other on being separate?
Isn’t love supposed to liberate you instead of give you anxiety?

Anyway, the only emotion I have, is gratitude – for going past such petty things.
That’s what I bless for my colleague as well. And everyone.

Over time…

Over time what made you cry, you begin to start looking forward to it.

Over time, what was difficult, you begin to find ease in it.

Over time, what you used to expect, you begin to find acceptance in lack of expectations met.

Over time, the money you used to dream of, you begin to be happy despite more of that money.

Over time, what used to make you happy, you begin to find happiness without it.

Over time, what used to make you angry, now makes you the most peaceful person.

Over time, as time changes, for good and only good, it changes us as well!

Why do we get sad?

The reason for getting sad is never the real reason.

The loss.
The no.
The rejection.
The lack.
The “never”.

These are not the real reasons. They are just drapes to cover up the original reasons.

The real reason is we are crying for something deeper.
We believe we don’t matter.
We think that our work doesn’t make an impact.
Or our presence doesn’t make anyone happy.
Or that everything will be happy even if we left.
Or perhaps that there will never be a tomorrow.

That is the real thing that makes us sad.

Think through it about what made you sad recently.
The reason was one of these.

However, the truth of life is this:


YOU matter.
YOU are important.
YOUR work makes a difference.

YOUR absence would make things difficult.

YOU are needed.

This holds true irrespective of what ANYONE tells you.

Pause for a moment to read this.

I don’t know, and that’s fine…

I don’t know if my work sitting in a remote silo is making difference in the world.
I have no idea if the people I care for actually care for me (so I could move on or continue lol)

But you know what…
Sometimes not knowing is super powerful.

Because it makes you do your own thing.

Doing your own thing without the influence of others, makes you more of your better self.
It is under that “better self” that you become stronger and okay with the fact that the world is not okay with you!