I asked my therapist, “What if I tell myself that it is okay if someone responded in a bad manner? They might as well be suffering, right?”
Of course, it is a good thing to run a marathon.
But the best runners, train themselves before the event.
However, if you go haven’t trained yourself at all and you get up one day and go run, can you imagine what all pain will you endure?
And now imagine how long have you been running this marathon!
So the way to be actually able to run that marathon is to train our brain, to understand our emotions first, and why we feel in the pain.
Otherwise, it is only a continuous run of pain, not a marathon in reality.
Something really deep to reflect upon.
Our biggest problem is believing someone else is responsible for our problems.
If we realise this is our biggest problem, all of a sudden, we gain power over our problems.
Isn’t that magical?
Today I was talking to my therapist, and I don’t know how I spoke about two different sides of me:
The one is the kiddish side of me who wants to come out, and the other is the side that is expected to be mature.
And she said a line: “If people around us are not giving us that space, you better go take it.”
She also went on to tell a story, saying if you are sitting on a bench in a park, enjoying your view, and someone comes and sits next to you, what would you do?
“I’ll get up and leave!”
“Most people would shift a bit, then again shift a bit if they come closer, and over time, they would just fall of the bench. In the process, they also ruin their view. What if you just claim that view to be yours, that no one can take away?”
“I agree, I just get up and leave from such views, and keep wandering…”
OMG, she makes me speak such truths about myself that are so buried inside!
Now she has given me a task to be more spontaneous and less calculative during the week. Fingers crossed :))
A good writer reads.
A great writer studies well-written texts.
A good writer is attached to their work.
A great writer loves their work, and is flexible to make changes. (Almost ALL the time :D)
A good writer wants others to like their work.
A great writer writes because she cannot not write.
A good writer writes when they are in a mood of writing.
A great writer writes, no matter what, and gets into a great mood.
A good writer faces writer’s block.
A great writer keeps writing, and lets the editing weed out non-essentials.
A good writer gets tired after a long session.
A great writer gets euphoric after a long session.
A good writer is in it for the rewards.
A great writer, gets rewarded for the process she follows daily.
Anyone can be a good writer.
It takes love for the process, the constant upskilling, and enjoying the flow, to become a great one.
If you really work hard and get better, you will get where you want to.
If you keep forgiving people, you will get lighter.
If you keep eating a bit lesser, soon you will get to your desired destination.
If you keep persisting when you are supposed to give up, you will get great rewards instantly over a period of time.
If you be there for yourself, you will be able to be there for others as well. Not vice versa.
It turns out, we already know all the answers. We just need to decide, as Seth Godin says.
I also want to have as much engagement as GaryVee.
I also want to have as many views as MostlySane.
I also want to not think a bit before buying Zara clothes.
I also want to…
We want to do a ton of things.
And probably that will take a lot of time.
That’s not the problem.
Problem is that we are not even starting.
Problem is that we keep waiting for that ride without getting out on the road.
Problem is we don’t trust ourselves.
Problem is, we don’t even know that we are the problem.
How will we ever get what we want, if we never get out of our own way and take action?
“The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.”
What is it that you are waiting for?
What you have, someone is insecure about having.
What gives you pain, someone is researching that.
What you have, you had worked hard to get there.
Be grateful. And forget the fear.
When things are not working out, perhaps you aren’t as well.
We become big
on the day
we refuse to feel small
on small acts of people
who don’t know
they are acting small.
They perhaps know this much only.
And thus, are acting this way.
But if you become like them
in the process of teaching them a lesson,
you have lost the biggest lesson of your own life:
“To not to be like the ones who try to pull you down.”
Because in reality, they aren’t trying to.
They just know this much.
They just know this much.
Perhaps you also need to alter your perspective.
Forming relationships is beyond connecting with people from LinkedIn to WhatsApp.
Forming relationships is just being the genuine human being that you are, without ulterior motive of collaborations.
When you do so, just because you want to give, what you’ll receive will come to you manifold.