Tag: process

Knowing Yourself, Life

Marathon without training

I asked my therapist, “What if I tell myself that it is okay if someone responded in a bad manner? They might as well be suffering, right?”

She said:

Of course, it is a good thing to run a marathon.

But the best runners, train themselves before the event.

However, if you go haven’t trained yourself at all and you get up one day and go run, can you imagine what all pain will you endure?

And now imagine how long have you been running this marathon!

So the way to be actually able to run that marathon is to train our brain, to understand our emotions first, and why we feel in the pain.

Otherwise, it is only a continuous run of pain, not a marathon in reality.

Something really deep to reflect upon.

Life

This is our biggest problem

Our biggest problem is believing someone else is responsible for our problems.

If we realise this is our biggest problem, all of a sudden, we gain power over our problems.

Isn’t that magical?

Knowing Yourself

Today I almost cried during therapy

Today I was talking to my therapist, and I don’t know how I spoke about two different sides of me:

The one is the kiddish side of me who wants to come out, and the other is the side that is expected to be mature.

And she said a line: “If people around us are not giving us that space, you better go take it.”

She also went on to tell a story, saying if you are sitting on a bench in a park, enjoying your view, and someone comes and sits next to you, what would you do?

“I’ll get up and leave!”

“Most people would shift a bit, then again shift a bit if they come closer, and over time, they would just fall of the bench. In the process, they also ruin their view. What if you just claim that view to be yours, that no one can take away?”

“I agree, I just get up and leave from such views, and keep wandering…”

OMG, she makes me speak such truths about myself that are so buried inside!

Now she has given me a task to be more spontaneous and less calculative during the week. Fingers crossed :))

Art and Creativity

A sonnet on writing

A good writer reads.
A great writer studies well-written texts.

A good writer is attached to their work.
A great writer loves their work, and is flexible to make changes. (Almost ALL the time :D)

A good writer wants others to like their work.
A great writer writes because she cannot not write.

A good writer writes when they are in a mood of writing.
A great writer writes, no matter what, and gets into a great mood.

A good writer faces writer’s block.
A great writer keeps writing, and lets the editing weed out non-essentials.

A good writer gets tired after a long session.
A great writer gets euphoric after a long session.

A good writer is in it for the rewards.
A great writer, gets rewarded for the process she follows daily.

Anyone can be a good writer.
It takes love for the process, the constant upskilling, and enjoying the flow, to become a great one.

Knowing Yourself, Life, Process

If this happens, that will definitely happen

If you really work hard and get better, you will get where you want to.

If you keep forgiving people, you will get lighter.

If you keep eating a bit lesser, soon you will get to your desired destination.

If you keep persisting when you are supposed to give up, you will get great rewards instantly over a period of time.

If you be there for yourself, you will be able to be there for others as well. Not vice versa.

It turns out, we already know all the answers. We just need to decide, as Seth Godin says.

Success

I want to…

I also want to have as much engagement as GaryVee.

I also want to have as many views as MostlySane.

I also want to not think a bit before buying Zara clothes.

I also want to…

We want to do a ton of things.
And probably that will take a lot of time.

That’s not the problem.

Problem is that we are not even starting.
Problem is that we keep waiting for that ride without getting out on the road.
Problem is we don’t trust ourselves.

Problem is, we don’t even know that we are the problem.

How will we ever get what we want, if we never get out of our own way and take action?

“The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.”
– Confucius

What is it that you are waiting for?

Happiness, Success

Why are you so insecure?

What you have, someone is insecure about having.

What gives you pain, someone is researching that.

What you have, you had worked hard to get there.

Be grateful. And forget the fear.

Knowing Yourself

The true measure of your bigness

We become big

on the day

we refuse to feel small

on small acts of people

who don’t know

they are acting small.

They perhaps know this much only.

And thus, are acting this way.

But if you become like them

in the process of teaching them a lesson,

you have lost the biggest lesson of your own life:

“To not to be like the ones who try to pull you down.”

Because in reality, they aren’t trying to.

They just know this much.

They just know this much.

Perhaps you also need to alter your perspective.

People

Forming relationships

Forming relationships is beyond connecting with people from LinkedIn to WhatsApp.

Forming relationships is just being the genuine human being that you are, without ulterior motive of collaborations.

When you do so, just because you want to give, what you’ll receive will come to you manifold.

Success

Is your education worth it?

Back in my school days, rather for the entire time of my formal education, I was a top scoring student.

  • How many of real world skills are dependent on the numbers you got?
  • Yes, your marks gave you a kick-start at the beginning of your career, however, did they decide your entire future? Never.
  • We all have countless examples of back-benchers who went out to do amazing things in life, then why do we still place so much importance on formal education?
People, Success

What if you don’t get it?

The thing that you are looking for, is superficial.

You will not get it because it depends on someone else seeing it in you.

You will get it because being honest deep within, is a rare trait to be acknowledged. Let that trait shine on, even when there is acknowledgment coming from someone else to someone else. Being authentic is rare, live up to that.

Process, Success

How to know if you’re growing

When you look at your work a month ago and laugh at it, you know you’re growing.

Bonus Point: Also, when you look at another piece of work from a month ago and feel proud seeing it, you know you’re creating epic work.

Success

Candy Crush rules

It is hard.

The easiest thing is to sit on the couch and eat French fries. Or play Candy Crush.

Waking up in the morning and working out relentlessly didn’t come easy to Jordan as well.

It is going to take a lot out of you to get there. Yet if you don’t make the efforts to get there you will get to a place it would be very difficult to get back from.

Working requires hard work.

Doing nothing requires hardest work to deal with yourself.

You get to decide.

Action, Process

The cooking compound interest

When I had initially learnt to cook, I’d multiply the amount of water and spices by the number of people who were eating the food.

Since I knew the perfect ingredients for my dal rice, i.e., what I cook for myself in Noida – while cooking the same for my parents at home I’d just put 3X water and salt.

Thinking it would work.

Except that it didn’t.

It requires lesser water than 3X of a single person’s water. It is just building up.

In life if we want to do something that seems humongous, we just need to begin the difficult process. As we keep taking small steps, we realise in the latter half of the journey that later you don’t have to make those 3X or 4X of efforts at the start.

The compound interest of your efforts will be more than enough to make you reach the destination.

You just need to start. Will you?

Process

That quick chutney

I love imli chutney. Whenever I go home, I just being a can filled with it, prepared by my Mom.

Since we are in the middle of a lockdown and I am unable to go home, today I asked Maa to teach me how to make chutney.

What she described as a process took me 90 minutes just to crush the tamarind! Pre and post processes notwithstanding.

Process. Journey. Of going through the crushing process. Of just going through it.

Going through it.

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Most difficult process

Beatles didn’t become Beatles by recording just one song in their entire career.

Dr. Deepak Chopra is known to be well-known for his correlation of medicine and spirituality by simply running Instagram ads on a Wednesday morning.

The office of your boss  that is bigger than a hotel  room was built one brick at a time.

The Instagram account that runs ads and gains a thousand followers daily, has been posting valuable content daily. Three years plus in a row now.

O, btw, the need to scroll your feed also came from “just one more time”.

So did the need to eat that unhealthy food. “What difference does one day make?” lead to a greater circumference around the central region of their body.

Or that anger at a random person driving their car harshly on the road. That came from not being compassionate with yourself in the morning and sitting for meditation, anyway.

Process is the Queen and the King. Reward is just the crown, it comes automatically when you go through the process strategically.

The question is, for every moment you’re wasting, the process is taking longer. Are you willing to risk that much time?

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Process versus product

Product means nothing, if process is flawed.

If process is powerful, end product really doesn’t matter (so much).

If people wait for weekend without working really hard on weekdays, they aren’t really going to enjoy the weekends.

It would be rather slogging.

If people do great work on weekdays then weekends won’t matter much, because they will be fulfilled from within.

Within.

Process versus product.