1. What if you didn’t check social media for the next 5 hours?
2. What if you read for the next 10 minutes?
3. How many people would be happier if you were just happier and more human?
Tag: understand
More wisdom, less work
More I have stacked having lesser work that is more valuable and comes with bigger responsibilities, the more I’ve to started realise that having more times precious.
Which means:
– “urgent work” is not important
– having a schedule is the way to get important things done.
– No is the biggest superpower.
It turns out, whatever we were taught in school – staying busy, working more, and saying yes in order to be liked – lose their power as we gain more wisdom.
Warm milk vs cold milk
Have you tried drinking plain cold milk? Without sugar or chocolate?
If yes, you know it has a calming effect.
Alternatively, if we drink warm milk without sugar, it is kind of weird. We need to add sugar to make it a bit better.
That is how life is. When we are chilled out, we are sweet naturally. When we are hot or angry, we have to make efforts to get sweetness.
We decide, which milk to be.
The velvet mat
I sit on the floor to have my meals. And when I get up, I do so without any support. This is my gold standard for health.
As the winter is approaching, my Mom got a velvet mat for me to sit.
And all of a sudden, I just couldn’t stand from that velvet mat. I felt like all of a sudden I had lost my health and stamina. It was uneasy.
And then a bolt hit me. Velvet is smooth and it acts as a friction between the resistance of the floor and my feet.
So the trick was to remove the velvet mat and then get up. Bam!
Sometimes the problem is not with our efforts, rather the medium where we are executing our efforts. Changing that might change everything.
When will things go right?
Nothing will go right in our lives unless,
a. We start appreciating what we have right now.
b. We understand that our positivity has the power to change people.
c. We believe that when people show us who they are, we need to believe them as Maya Angelou said.
About values of life
1. Staying by your values is hard. Yet devaluation of yourself is a murder.
2. You are who you are when no one is watching.
3. Doing nothing is important. And sometimes disastrous. It’s about figuring it out.
4. Helping without the ultimate intent is the real measure of kindness.
5. You are what you repeatedly do. Excellence is a habit. – Aristotle
When you don’t like someone…
When you don’t like someone, going about not liking them forever is a tough job.
What if you asked yourself instead: “Why do I not like them?”
It may be possible that their values aren’t aligned with yours.
It may also be possible that they just don’t know better.
And when you make time to think deep with yourself, you’ll be able to make an informed choice, not the one that is out of rage and impulse.
You get the life basis the people you allow. The first person to allow is you, not the byproduct of someone else’s actions.
The true measure of your bigness
We become big
on the day
we refuse to feel small
on small acts of people
who don’t know
they are acting small.
They perhaps know this much only.
And thus, are acting this way.
But if you become like them
in the process of teaching them a lesson,
you have lost the biggest lesson of your own life:
“To not to be like the ones who try to pull you down.”
Because in reality, they aren’t trying to.
They just know this much.
They just know this much.
Perhaps you also need to alter your perspective.
Why do we reflect?
You reflected on something that you wanted to change.
And you decided to change.
The question is: Till when?
Not only for one day or two. What are you doing to make change stick?
Before forming one more new habit and failing at all of them and calling yourself a failure, create a plan for sticking to just one habit.
And then the next. Drop by drop. Dip by dip.
What’s your weight?
This lockdown came along with gyms locked down.
Till March, I had reached a great weight resistance. Then began the workout at home.
Today I brought in weights from my old home, and lo, the resistance which I could carry initially wasn’t there. The reason, obviously, was lack of practice with weights.
In life, the more we continue to live with goodness, the more resilience we develop against what’s isn’t right – without losing on who we are.
If we remain where we are without increasing that quota of goodness, over time, we’ll lose it.
Over time, we will lose ourselves.