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1. If you want to capture your truth to show it to others, you have already started living a lie.
2. A great life is where you are humble even when you don’t know how to.
3. Protecting your mindset is the best insurance.
4. Challenging yourself is the best safety.
5. And a little reminder: You are the product of five people you hang around with.
We need more people who understand us.
We need more people to respect us.
We need people who could see how hard we are working.
Amidst all of that, have we taken time to acknowledge our own journey?
And have we dug deep and acknowledged someone else?
If the answer to both these is yes, do we then really need someone to appreciate us?
Forming relationships is beyond connecting with people from LinkedIn to WhatsApp.
Forming relationships is just being the genuine human being that you are, without ulterior motive of collaborations.
When you do so, just because you want to give, what you’ll receive will come to you manifold.
Back in my school days, rather for the entire time of my formal education, I was a top scoring student.
Off late, when exams were dismissed by education boards in India, it still came as a pleasant respite to me.
Someone in my family, who passed their exams 20+ years back, wasn’t though.
When I told them I was quite happy with it, they were rather upset.
“How could YOU be happy?”
“What would happen to students like you, whose life depended on school marks?”
“Won’t it be unfair for students like you?”
Though I could sense they were not in a position to understand, it made me think:
Of course, formal education is important. However the pressure we put on it to take us to the other end is unbelievable.
What really matters beyond formal education, is:
Closing statement: Formal education isn’t dead yet. However, the authority it had to dominate our lives never existed. You get to decide how your life will be, not your formal education.
It’s a feeling that just doesn’t go.
Or sometimes I mix it up with my introversion and love for work.
This is not for likes or comments, just to reveal a wall that’s been hiding.
And I do end up breaking it sometimes, only to come to the stones that built it up in the first place.
That I want to go to the hall and chit chat with my family.
That I want to be optimistic along with sharing that feeling of emptiness within.
That I know that it’s okay to be okay when it’s not okay.
Yet I do none of these.
Because anything that is not stomach ache, fever or diabetes is not a disease – that our society and upbringing has taught us.
Perhaps because they would want to hide it under anger, like everything else.
Perhaps because it requires the need to acknowledge your own inner needs to be able to acknowledge them in other.
Yet on the other side of the tunnel I see hope.
And I trust that hope like sunshine.
And somehow we will manage to come out of it.
I don’t know how to end this, yet this is not the end. For sure.
For several years, I’ve seen Oprah repeat Maya Angelou’s words:
When people show you who they are, believe them!
I for the longest time used to think that this was not right.
And proved myself wrong over and over again.
Oprah was very very right about what she said.
When people show you they’re mean, believe them.
When people show you they’re kind, believe them.
When people show you they’re angry, believe them.
And while you do believe them, continue believing in your own power to be super focused and powerful to what you radiate out to them. You be you, perhaps they will show you a better side of themselves.
If our thoughts create our destiny,
If our time is limited,
If we have the power,
Then doesn’t it make sense to make a budget for our inner resources just like for our cash and expenses?
“What if this fails?” Everyone asks this question.
What is someone shows you it’s possible?
What if someone shows you what all is working?
What if someone tells you that you have done it before, so repeating the impossible is possible?
What if that “someone” is the one in the mirror?
There are going to be a lot of times when the only person standing in your favour is you. And if you are strong from within, you will know it’s possible.
Will you? Stand for yourself? Every single day?
Every single day we have, we say more than what we speak.
Most people believe people judge them by what they speak. Speaking doesn’t generate trust. It’s just a validation of who you are.
What you don’t say and do it, decides what people will think of you.
Who you are inside, people will always know about it. Never an exception.
What you are speaks so loudly to me that I can barely hear what you say.
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The question, then, is not “how do I make myself liked by them?”
The question is “how do I be the same inside and outside?”
Like a postcard. Not an envelope.
We live in a messy world.
Or maybe we have created it so.
Or maybe the world is a beautiful place to be.
Or maybe…
…maybe you know all I am going to say that it is a matter of perception.
All that said and done, the world you and I outside is created by what we do within.
If you disagree, try thinking ONLY positive for the next twenty-four hours and notice the difference.
Deal?
You will never know what someone else is going through.
Beneath their anger is the child their parents never spent time with.
Beneath their gossips is the inner hurts they never healed.
Beneath their frustrations with you is the frustration that they are not able to deal with their lives.
Beneath every pain they inflict upon you is the pain within them they are trying to deal with, and unable to do so.
It’s really not about you, as much as their hurting words and actions are about them.
There will come a time when your righteousness will be tested. People will question your energy, your positivity and most importantly, your values.
That question won’t be direct. It will be in the form of allegation, bad words or perhaps even threat.
Now you’re left with two options:
Option I:
Justify yourself.
When you don’t have that authority, justify yourself in your head.
Option II:
Understand. Questioning you may be because of only two reasons:
a) They are not too fond of you. Perhaps your high vibes make them want to try more. When they can’t, the easiest way is to bring you down.
In this situation, simply stop. Even if they are totally wrong, what they need is to be “right”. Work on yourself to calmly respond and put your point forward. Then don’t get attached to they accepting it. Bless them, and keep working within.
b) They said something that really needs to change in you, their method was however not right.
In this situation, determine to work on yourself. And for the adage “be respectful”, you start at your end by respecting the person who disrespected you. Your respect to them (from within) will be the best gift to them.
You have the self respect not to be sensitive to someone else’s way of being. That way, you empower the world.
Today. Be.
Product means nothing, if process is flawed.
If process is powerful, end product really doesn’t matter (so much).
If people wait for weekend without working really hard on weekdays, they aren’t really going to enjoy the weekends.
It would be rather slogging.
If people do great work on weekdays then weekends won’t matter much, because they will be fulfilled from within.
Within.
Process versus product.