Forming relationships is beyond connecting with people from LinkedIn to WhatsApp.
Forming relationships is just being the genuine human being that you are, without ulterior motive of collaborations.
When you do so, just because you want to give, what you’ll receive will come to you manifold.
Part I: Giving Help
If you want to help someone else, make sure you’ve helped yourself.
If you think you are still doing them a favour, you are not.
People love to know they’re loved, only if they could feel you loving yourself.
Part II: Asking for Help
If you are asking for someone else’s help out of their obligation to do it for you and out of their inability to not do it willingly, probably you need to rethink your choices.
The only way to have everything aligned on the outside is to align yourself from within. Nothing changes before that.
Goodbyes are the most beautiful things on the planet.
When we know we have to say a goodbye, all of a sudden we tend to forget what pain they caused us.
We suddenly feel regret on the pains we know we caused to them.
Why does it happen in the first place?
It happens, because we humans tend to live life on the pedestals of tomorrow.
Will make that call tomorrow.
Will call my sister tomorrow.
Will pay the credit card bill tomorrow.
The way we love tomorrow, if we loved our today the same way – no goodbye would be so painful.
Here’s a parting question: Where in your life would we feel bad, if we didn’t get a chance to say a goodbye?
It’s a feeling that just doesn’t go.
Or sometimes I mix it up with my introversion and love for work.
This is not for likes or comments, just to reveal a wall that’s been hiding.
And I do end up breaking it sometimes, only to come to the stones that built it up in the first place.
That I want to go to the hall and chit chat with my family.
That I want to be optimistic along with sharing that feeling of emptiness within.
That I know that it’s okay to be okay when it’s not okay.
Yet I do none of these.
Because anything that is not stomach ache, fever or diabetes is not a disease – that our society and upbringing has taught us.
Perhaps because they would want to hide it under anger, like everything else.
Perhaps because it requires the need to acknowledge your own inner needs to be able to acknowledge them in other.
Yet on the other side of the tunnel I see hope.
And I trust that hope like sunshine.
And somehow we will manage to come out of it.
I don’t know how to end this, yet this is not the end. For sure.
The light is always there.
Beyond the clouds when the flight takes off.
After the dawn.
Inside a book.
Everywhere there is the light.
We just need to let it know that it is important. It is needed. It is powerful.
To feel bad, you don’t have to do anything much. You just have to do nothing and you will start feeling bad, just by being in the environment we all are living in today.
On the contrary, to feel good requires attention.
You need to take care of your mindset, what goes inside your head in the morning, what goes inside your head throughout the day, and most importantly, how you talk with yourself.
Feeling good requires efforts.
Feeling bad requires a ton of efforts, later on.
You get to decide.
One of the reasons people don’t feel happy at the end of the day is because they left their important tasks undone.
Amidst jumping along from trivial tasks to responding to “important” messages, a lot of people feel unfulfilled at the end of the day.
How to tackle that feeling of feeling empty then, when you already know that is the first task you should do?
Make it simple in two steps:
1. Make it non-negotiable. Something you can’t live without. For me, for example, it’s meditating first thing in the morning. Make it as inevitable as breathing.
2. When you do it, get more addicted to the feeling – that is the very feeling that comes you alive.
Think over it, do you really want to live without that feeling?
Make “no” the word you use the most.
Not disgracefully or in a disrespectful manner. Rather, in a humble manner.
The way you can get ahead is by going ahead of what isn’t serving you.
How do you know what isn’t serving you? By checking how you feel.
“Your feeling small doesn’t change the world,” said Marianne Williamson.
Remember you are a child of God, as she said. And God’s kids are supposed to be happy, by taking care not to let sadness enter in.
PS: If you’re struggling with your happiness, do check out this podcast, it may be of help to you.
If you think it’s easy for pro’s to get up and do the workout daily, you’re wrong.
No one, absolutely no one wants to go through the grind.
They still go through it, because the feeling that comes after the hard work, is unmatchable.
Don’t go with what you are going through. Go with what you want to go through.
Focus on power of future versus what pain it brings in the present.