Get in emotional action. Own your life, and inspire others to do the same.
Feb is the month when Nana passed away. Precisely 18th Feb, 2014.
I loved him dearly. But don’t feel a vacuum. That is the best thing about true love.
Love makes you stronger and more loving in their presence, not weaker and hateful.
If we turn latter in a loved one’s presence, we perhaps never loved the one we lost. We were simply being selfish in the process of loving them.
Today there’s nothing much to say.
Lost a close Uncle. Had met him two days after Diwali, last month. Little did anyone of us know that this was the last one.
While we were cordial and cool in our last meeting, I do realise that we don’t know which one is going to be our last meeting.
Lesson: Treat every meeting with people like the last one. We never know.
Death has taken bigger toll on 2020 than we had ever expected.
It has become a daily feat to conquer instead of facing it at the end of the life.
However, when death comes with a possibility threat, it also comes as a reminder:
1. That if it comes to grab us, let it take us away with our happiness, instead of letting its fear take away our happiness.
2. That there are people who need our support and just our emotional presence. We can always be there for them, even if we are not around them. Let our loved ones know you care. Because you do. And because they need you.
3. This moment is all we have. We don’t know what’s next, however we do own what we have now.
When you’re not listening to your heart, things will fall apart.
When you do things that you don’t want to, things will still fall apart.
When you sell your soul, there would be nothing left.
Living life on your terms is difficult – this is the thought process fit into our brain.
However, when you live life on the terms of the society by killing yourself daily, you are already dead.
The best life advice ever is: Life life on your own terms. Everything else will just fall for you. (Try falling for yourself, baby! )
Almost everyone of us was shocked on the sudden demise of Sushant Singh Rajput.
People blamed nepotism, crushing of his dreams and existence of politics for that.
The time kept on going. And then came the day for his last movie being premiered on air. We were ready with tissue papers, popcorns, and tonnes of empathy for him.
We all cried with him.
Now what’s next? In a few days or weeks, our life will start going as it was. In fact, it already has.
Here’s the biggest truth: Sushant won’t be happy on you just watching his last movie.
If we cried and loved him and missed him, it won’t make him happy.
Rather if we just stopped and did something like:
Sushant would be much much happier, wherever he is, whatever he is doing.
You are terrified at his death. The entire nation is. However, none of us, not a single one of us know what others are going through – not even our family and friends.
If we could show them that we are there for them, no matter what, they’ll feel connected to a part of them that most of us have lost.
‘And perhaps, they come to life again! Maybe Sushant will also!
Goodbyes are the most beautiful things on the planet.
When we know we have to say a goodbye, all of a sudden we tend to forget what pain they caused us.
We suddenly feel regret on the pains we know we caused to them.
Why does it happen in the first place?
It happens, because we humans tend to live life on the pedestals of tomorrow.
Will make that call tomorrow.
Will call my sister tomorrow.
Will pay the credit card bill tomorrow.
The way we love tomorrow, if we loved our today the same way – no goodbye would be so painful.
Here’s a parting question: Where in your life would we feel bad, if we didn’t get a chance to say a goodbye?
Last night was something I would remember for a long time.
Ever since the time lockdown began, I was in Delhi – where I stay owing to my work. Couldn’t go to home.
Yesterday we finally got the permission to move from there to my hometown via hired taxi.
It was four of us – me, a friend, her brother and the taxi driver.
We had just crossed Jaipur and at the border of Jaipur and Tonk – there was a police patroling like it’s always there.
While crossing from there, the driver perhaps dozed off and blew away four barricades at a drizzling speed. The fifth one happened to finally drag the car for twenty metres – until it finally moved to a zigzag pattern, rendered the car to forcibly stop.
It was 1AM.
The moon was sparking bright.
In the month of May in the state of Rajasthan, the cool breeze was refreshing.
And then this accident. We managed to handle it. The police was extremely kind to us.
Another car was passing from the highway and the driver noticed the number plate on our car was of our hometown – where they were going.
The driver offered to help. We were skeptical.
However going in the same broken car was nothing short of dangerous – here the police was there, later on we weren’t promised of police support.
We thought over it, deliberated it for a few minutes – until we finally asked the driver to share his ID.
And bam!
When my friend clicked the picture of his ID, she realised she has seen this ID a couple of days back.
She scrolled through her pictures and realised he was the same driver who had cancelled his trip to coming to pick us up because he was appointed to go somewhere else.
What a coincidence!
We went on with this driver, made the former driver go with his car, called his manager in the middle of the night to no avail – and off we went.
All sorted out.
With just one thing – yesterday as I escaped death just by a few inches, I almost had an intuition at 10 PM in the car that I better start meditating and create an aura of safety and protection around us.
God moves in mysterious ways, his wonders to perform – said Napoleon Hill in Think and Grow Rich.
PS: In this entire episode from 1:10 AM to 1:55 AM, I felt zero anxiety or restlessness. Someone is mysteriously moving along.
PPS: Btw here’s a pic of clean sky in the otherwise busy evening of Noida. Enjoy!
Last night was something I would remember for a long time – for all the good reasons!
Kobe died.
Irfan died.
You and I survived the corona.
Do we need more examples to start living life?
If you don’t like working on PPTs, are you doing something along with it that you love?
It’s okay to feel sleepy when you’re not rested, are you making best use of you time when you are well rested?
If your parents did not give you a perfect childhood, are you giving them a perfect older age life?
It’s okay if you want to change how the current world looks like, question is are you starting with yourself? Daily?
No one was offered a perfect world on the day they were born.
Everyone, was offered an opportunity, to leave the world a little better in the un-defined number of years they were given. If you, like the rest of us, do not know the date of your death, today would be a great day to start.
In search of life,
I settled for death
Why ask others
When after murdering my own happiness
I am suffering the pain of its death
In search of life,
I settled for death
The above is an excerpt from my book “Fit Doesn’t Fit: Why not fitting into the world is The Best Thing for You and the World”
The only purpose behind me writing this book was to let people like you and me, who are wandering in search of happiness, yet know the only person responsible for happiness is the person in the mirror.
Yes, there are people who shattered you from the core.
Yes, there are people who tried to bring out the worst in you.
Yes, despite all this, no one understands you.
This book is an attempt to bring that understanding not TO you, rather FOR you, because you deserve it. Your life is not randomly allowed to be wasted by anyone.
You matter. Stop fitting in.
The ebook is available here and Paperback is available here.
What’s better? It’s available globally, outside India readers do check your local Amazon sites, because I want my global community to be benefitted.
Wish you all all the peace, friends. Stop fitting in. Be an Unfit.