The reason for getting sad is never the real reason.
The loss. The no. The rejection. The lack. The “never”.
These are not the real reasons. They are just drapes to cover up the original reasons.
The real reason is we are crying for something deeper. We believe we don’t matter. We think that our work doesn’t make an impact. Or our presence doesn’t make anyone happy. Or that everything will be happy even if we left. Or perhaps that there will never be a tomorrow.
That is the real thing that makes us sad.
Think through it about what made you sad recently. The reason was one of these.
However, the truth of life is this:
YOU matter. YOU are important. YOUR work makes a difference.
YOUR absence would make things difficult.
YOU are needed.
This holds true irrespective of what ANYONE tells you.
There is someone in my circle who comes across as a very sorted, chilled out person.
They are least affected by all the hype happening at work or in someone else’s life, don’t respond to extreme events, and enjoy their work the most.
Very recently, someone in the group asked them what was the biggest personal lesson of 2020.
You’ll be stunned at the response!
“I realize I am the biggest source of stress in my life.” They went on to say that in the nine months of Covid alone, they had developed more grey hair than all the past years combined together.
It made me think. I always used to think of her as a chilled out, I-don’t-give-a-damn kind of person. Maybe they are that. However, just because someone doesn’t show it, that doesn’t mean they aren’t carrying a heavy load.
For some people, the very nature of not showing is their way of dealing with their load.
Aceeptance, not judgement, opens the doors of empathy from us to them, instead of we pigeonholing them as ruthless.
Each human is suffering, and the best way to save them is acknowledge it first, instead of judging them
In the last week of 2020, I removed the email app from my phone.
Little had I expected, my screen time went down drastically.
So, going to continue that in 2021 as well. Even if there is an extreme news of me making it to the best seller list, I’ll be able to enjoy it when I am peacefully sitting in a place to read that email. Quick notifications aren’t a great place to celebrate.