- You think
- You introspect
- You work better
Thus, to work better, it happens to take breaks more often.
Tag: thoughts
- You think
- You introspect
- You work better
Thus, to work better, it happens to take breaks more often.
First stage: Penning down your thoughts
Second stage: Editing them
Third stage: Understanding the readers’ psychology
Rinse and repeat
Writing good content is understanding psychology.
Winning at a game is understanding psychology.
Eating less is understanding your own psychology.
Life is psychology, but we don’t admit it because we don’t understand psychology. Pure psychology 🙂
I am usually very chilled out in life however when it comes to work I really want to it done. Mostly because it has my signature on it.
For example, the website will go live tomorrow however my boss had a chilled out tonality while giving a loom feedback. Yes nothing would go live without his heads up however the knowledge that nothing would change if you worry about it – is something I gotta copy from my boss.
Not sure tbh. Maybe this sense of urgency also drives me and my team. However, we will figure it out 🙂
This blog is something I do not popularise much about.
I write here religiously.
From the heart.
Without worrying about the algorithm.
And even what so called friends would say.
Here I come to write my heart.
What I am feeling today.
Maybe it is transient.
Like everything else is.
But, it writing what I am feeling in the moment, helps me heal.
Isn’t it the reason why we all are here?
To heal.
We may not accept it, but in order for a huge part of our life to glow, we have to go through the messy process of vacuum cleaning so that everything that emerges is flawless.
Anyway, if at all you must do something ever, it is to write your blog.
Not to grow your following.
Not to show any vanity.
Rather, to pour your heart out.
To write content that you wish no one read, other than you.
And you will come at a place, where you won’t regret it.
Trust me!
The reason for getting sad is never the real reason.
The loss.
The no.
The rejection.
The lack.
The “never”.
These are not the real reasons. They are just drapes to cover up the original reasons.
The real reason is we are crying for something deeper.
We believe we don’t matter.
We think that our work doesn’t make an impact.
Or our presence doesn’t make anyone happy.
Or that everything will be happy even if we left.
Or perhaps that there will never be a tomorrow.
That is the real thing that makes us sad.
Think through it about what made you sad recently.
The reason was one of these.
However, the truth of life is this:
YOU matter.
YOU are important.
YOUR work makes a difference.
YOUR absence would make things difficult.
YOU are needed.
This holds true irrespective of what ANYONE tells you.
Pause for a moment to read this.
1. Speak your truth.
2. Ask for feedback.
3. Play Plot 4 with Mom 🙂
Law of attraction says that if you are looking for a partner, keep the seat next to you empty.
Thus, I purposefully do NOT keep the seat next to me empty 🙂
1. Keep your good work.
2. Check before leaving (I bought full moong dal instead of broken).
3. No one will respect you unless you respect yourself.
Off-late, I have restarted my age old habit of evening walks, and I couldn’t be happier!
Some benefits:
1. Gives much needed mobility to the body.
2. Makes my intuition active, instead of seeking refute in the screen.
3. I get fresh oxygen!
4. Get to witness so many stories.
5. My eyes change their focus, and that’s awesome.
6. I have ideas for writing, just like this one.
7. I learn to forgive without being asked for.
8. I get the much needed me time without devices. (PS: I don’t carry my phone, nor do I wear my smart watch there.)
9. It is a discipline that is so much fun, that you cannot not do it! And that’s beautiful 🙂
Letting go of 1.5 year old client at the end of this month.
We have grown together. In our business. And work. And maybe as human beings as well as our professional relationships.
However, as we grow, we change priorities.
For me, I need answers to work related questions to create content on personal branding. For him, he has just raised funding and maybe (rightly) does not have time. It is, thus, inappropriate for me to continue with inauthentic content.
The best part, which I also believe is the most mature part: He respected my decision instead of trying to stop me.
Btw, the reason for leaving that I have communicated to him is me not having time out of my day job. In reality, it is his lack of time for his own content that is making me make this decision.
Over the past few months, I have had several conversations with him about sharing his content, along with citing examples from other creators. However, since things aren’t changing much, it is better for us to part ways.
Still, he remains one of the most trusting and easiest clients I’ve ever worked with.
Bless him, with a better content writer, and the best business 🙂
1. What if you didn’t check social media for the next 5 hours?
2. What if you read for the next 10 minutes?
3. How many people would be happier if you were just happier and more human?
If I go back to Nishtha of 5 years back, I would be ambitious. having a list of goals, wanting to go to TED, 30 Under 30, and certainly a Maybach.
Right now, I’m enjoying the process.
I’m working super hard.
I love my work.
I take my breaks.
All of this is so fulfilling, that the need for validation just goes away. It just does.
And what is left with, is the feeling of letting go of the need of success.
The success that you feel, when you let go of the need of success, is true success!
There is a wonderful client of mine, whose business is making Ayurvedic drinks.
He once graciously sent me a huge pack of Ayurveda drinks, along with two packs of hot chocolate powder and gourmet coffee.
It turns out, everyone in my family loves hot chocolate powder more. Which comes from an Ayurveda drinks manufacturer. Ironies of life.
The other day, I was having that chocolate shake, while my Mom asked, “You’re still working with this client, right?”
I couldn’t stop laughing. Ironies of life – me who was having it once a month, and my Maa who doesn’t have it either – both trying to love the chocolate product of an Ayurveda manufacturer.
PS: Here’s a pic, of that chocolate shake. Enjoy 😊
There was once a saint who lived up there, in the mountains. To meditate. And think positive thoughts.
In the hut, just opposite to his, used to live a prostitute. Every day, she used to look at the saint and be inspired – as to this is how I should be living my life – filled with positivity, and thinking of God.
Meanwhile, the saint used to look at the prostitute’s house, and think about how she is ruining her life, how her life is terrible, and how he would never want a life like that.
Several years later, they both died.
Up in the clouds, it was decided that the prostitute will go to heaven and the saint will go to hell.
“Why, I was meditating whole day?” rebelled the saint.
Here’s what the administrators up there told them:
It is not what you do, it is what you are thinking about whole day, that makes the difference. While you were busy mocking the prostitute in your mind, she was busy idealising a meditative lifestyle.
It turns out, our thoughts actually run or ruin the world.
Travelled from Kota to Delhi via train today.
The view itself made me more productive. Nature, itself, is a great healer.
Some lessons:
- Travel gives more ideas. Why not travel to nature, daily?
- I was surrounded by a Punjabi family, who spoke to me in Punjabi. What a great way to assume 🙂 Btw, nicely generous people (and I will ignore the fact that they pushed their daughter to look up to me to see how I was working! Can you guys give yourselves a break? Dude, you were returning from Goa, why do you expect anyone to be working when they are returning from Goa?)
- Half of the coach was empty. A good way to live luxuriously.
- Did I tell you, my productivity was at its peak? None of my colleagues knew I was travelling (not to hide anything from them – we are anyway a chill lot), nor did I tell them – because work was getting done.
- It is important to give yourself some treats of solitude.
Had some more reflections, however, for now I want to sleep. So, see you tomorrow! Good night 🙂
1. I could list out thirty things
2. But you already know of
3. The One Thing that will change your life.
It is all about what you do right now, once you know that you know.
It’s been a while, and all this while, I have been thinking of what I’ve lost. I never knew I loved my old work so much. Who misses work so much?!
Everyone has to lose everything some day. What stays back is how you responded to such losses.
You know what’s the worst part? A friend of mine is dealing with another loss and all this while I have been bringing her back. And she’s recovering quite well, despite the fact that she is the most vulnerable om the weekends.
Another example I see is of Brahma Kumaris. They had a well established network of services in India, when a senior Sister of the organisation was told to leave this and begin her services in London. And as much as she resisted it, her stint in London paved the way for more and bigger services.
Strange how “me” and “mine” works. While in reality, only God is mine. Because I am not this body, I am the observer in this body. That observer is answerable to God – to create karmas that set an example, not something that sets ego boundaries.
Nishtha, no we are not going back. Staying true to your karma is your dharma. And life always moves beyond.
Had the first therapy session today.
Who in the world talks about it openly?
Well, we haven’t been open, that is why we have been needing therapy 🙂
On that note, it felt a bit better. Even though it will take some time to heal unseen wounds of years, well, all is well that starts well. 😊