The cool kids we hate

There is certainly ONE cool kid around you.
The one wearing a high attitude.
The one whose WhatsApp messages everyone responds to.

Here’s the truth about those cool kids:

  • They are suffering a lot inside
  • So they use that coolness to mask it
  • And not treat others well
  • And get to feel good about themselves
  • And the cycle continues

Here’s what you should bear in mind, whenever you come across these cool kids in whose company you don’t feel welcome:

  • Respect your own journey
  • Move on
  • Bless them

The ones who make others suffer, are the ones who are suffering hugely inside.

A random moment of joy

Yesterday I was feeling typically heavy after my therapy session, which ended at 4 pm.

I went out of my room, and sat in the balcony with my Mom and 3 year old nephew.

We were talking random stuff. And having fun, because – kid ๐Ÿ™‚

And then, he randomly went to the kitchen, brought a plate and a spoon, and started banging them against each other.

Nishu Masi, dance!

Somehow, I got up and started dancing. And doing the cartwheel. He stopped banging. I stopped dancing. He started banging. I started dancing.

Lasted for 5 minutes. But something I will remember forever.

No lesson to derive from. All good. Just life. And moments worth remembering.

Travel diaries

Travelled from Kota to Delhi via train today.

The view itself made me more productive. Nature, itself, is a great healer.

Some lessons:

  1. Travel gives more ideas. Why not travel to nature, daily?
  2. I was surrounded by a Punjabi family, who spoke to me in Punjabi. What a great way to assume ๐Ÿ™‚ Btw, nicely generous people (and I will ignore the fact that they pushed their daughter to look up to me to see how I was working! Can you guys give yourselves a break? Dude, you were returning from Goa, why do you expect anyone to be working when they are returning from Goa?)
  3. Half of the coach was empty. A good way to live luxuriously.
  4. Did I tell you, my productivity was at its peak? None of my colleagues knew I was travelling (not to hide anything from them – we are anyway a chill lot), nor did I tell them – because work was getting done.
  5. It is important to give yourself some treats of solitude.

Had some more reflections, however, for now I want to sleep. So, see you tomorrow! Good night ๐Ÿ™‚

Kindling away the distractions!

It’s incredible how good distractions force us to do good!

For the past 4-5 days, I noticed myself eating more than usual.
I knew I wasn’t hungry.
But just couldn’t resist!

So I played a small hack.

Each time I went to the dining table, I carried Kindle along with me.
Once I was done eating the right amount of food, I immediately switched on to reading for the next 10-15 minutes.

After that, the cravings disappeared.
So did the “hunger”.
What was left was a wiser brain and a leaner body.
Total Win-Win!

I still do that, and on each meal it works wonders!!!
Isn’t it (not at all) strange how everything in our mind is just a correlation?

Which, in turn means, we have been living our entire life on hacks!!

Our generation is so cool!

Sometimes all I have is sympathy for our parents’ generation.

Their parents saw the partition of the nation – leaving their country, their childhood, all that they called “theirs”, to come to another place just to survive.

In this need for survival, was the generation of our parents born.

Thus, the upbringing they got was of stress, not having enough time, and always lack of means.

Which is why our parents are the way they are.
They have been conditioned so.
They were never taught to love.
Perhaps because they were never loved.
And then one fine day, we pop up and expect them to be cool because that is what we are surrounded by – cool kids just like us.

Now that we know, we can still do what we want to do, while being respectful of who they are. It isn’t just for them, it is for the acknowledgement of how much they are trying to adapt, because they care for you:)

Dealt with bad clients?

“I have dealt with so many bad clients.”
“Not all clients provide creative freedom.”
“I have the mind of steel now, while dealing with bad clients.”

Time and again, I see people documenting their bad experiences with their clients.

However, here is the truth:
They weren’t bad. They were just being themselves.

Maybe they were not trusted with money so they thought it is okay to pass on that belief.
Maybe their work never trusted so they did the same to you.
Or maybe maybe maybe you made the mistake in choosing the wrong professional relationship.

If we are aware, we always know in pre signing up conversations, how the other person is going to turn out to be.
If we truly look back at all our “bad” experiences, in our heart, we knew that before signing them up.

People rarely change.
They just reveal themselves.
It is up to us when we choose to see and when we choose to be blinded.

I’d never thought I’ll do this!

Off-late I have started teaching Maths to my nephew and niece.
9th standard kids. Unable to understand it in Zoom classes. So we do another Zoom whiteboard instead ๐Ÿ™‚

Here’s what few days of teaching have taught me:
Pros:
1. Be enthusiastic with kids and they will reflect that back every day.
2. If you clear their basics, they will we propelled themselves to go to RD Sharma (I know!) to do further.
3. Damn their innocent voice! Or maybe its my love for them <3

Cons:
I discovered one about myself: To accept everyone at their own speed instead of expecting everyone to be at the same one.

Life gets so much better when you hang out with the right people, in whatever manner ๐Ÿ™‚

Five fave one-liners

  1. We are our strongest when we listen to our inner voice more than what our idols say.
  2. The only birthday preparation introverts make is turn on phone notifications the day before.
  3. The doers have one core value: They never talk much about their future plans. They just let their work do the talking.
  4. When someone asks you: “How you did it?” and you stumble for a bit instead of showing, “This is how…”, you’re truly humble.
  5. Do it even if your parents disagree. They will disagree to things they themselves said once. Why not actually go live your life? (PS: Disagreement does not mean being disrespectful.)

Boss Lady

To be a boss lady, you do not have to become the boss of the team. You just have to be the boss of your life.

Lemme show that to you with an example:

Pic 1
Pic 2

If you observe closely, in Pic 1 I am having a fake smile versus Iโ€™m just being a natural in Pic 2.

Why so? Because that day I was going to do something that I should have said no to. So I was not in my best frame of mind. It is from 2018.

In pic 2, from March 2021, Iโ€™m just myself all the time. Being happy, saying no to things that donโ€™t matter, and more than anything else, being the boss of my life.

So, if you want to be the Boss Lady, just live your life on your own terms. And not to impress anyone.