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Sometimes I get happy with good things happening.
Sometimes I get upset with not-so-good things happening.
Don’t like this contingent part of mine.
Will get there soon. To be at ease.
I am, btw, at ease for most things that used to disturb me, and that’s an achievement.
You are a rockstar NG, and keep that up 🙂
Even though you love your work,
Even though you feel energised,
Even though your boss is super-supportive by not micromanaging you
You must take an off on the weekends and on the festivals.
Because things that are meant to be enjoyed and relished are the things that are meant to be enjoyed and relished.
There is no substitute to not spending time with yourself and reflecting, because only in emptiness you get to understand yourself.
Which makes you all the more productive when you return to work.
Law of attraction says that if you are looking for a partner, keep the seat next to you empty.
Thus, I purposefully do NOT keep the seat next to me empty 🙂
1. Do more than you are expected to.
2. Speak less than you are expected to.
3. Work out each time you are expected to.
I returned to Delhi yesterday.
Was waiting for this for long.
Still, I miss Mom. And Papa. And kids. And the drama 🙂
Change is hard. However, change is what we must.
Maybe I will go back. Maybe I won’t.
Not pronouncing any decision as of now.
But really trying to spend time with myself.
And telling myself, “It’s okay. You will get through this.”
Just for one minute, just for one minute I popped out of my room and saw Maa watching Anupama, where someone is telling her, I wish everyone had this blessing of memory loss.
Maa be like: I agree!
Damn!
Okay, you want to forget?
Forget.
As simple as this. You remember because you remember, nothing else.
I remember my first relationship – I was so sooo deep into the memories of it years after it got over, that I remembered the chats of our conversations for years. Years! And this is after I deleting all of those, with NO back-up at all.
At a certain point, I remember it happened in early 2019, I forgot everything. EVERYTHING.
As a matter of fact, very recently I was reading my book which I wrote early in 2019 and was going through a snippet of chat, and I was like, “Dude, I didn’t know I remembered all of this!”
Forgetting is not a super power. It’s a choice.
A few days back, a relative called up on my birthday.
After exchanging pleasantries, they said, “I have heard that you have gotten very slim.”
“Yes, you have heard the truth,” I laughed that off.
“No, but very, very slim I mean,” they shot back.
I used my fun tone again, and asked, “But you would be still commenting on my looks even if I gained a lot of weight!”
“O, even that’s the truth!”
The truth is, no matter what you do, someone will figure a way to raise a question.
If you are kind, someone will ask you to be stern.
If you are stern, someone would want you to calm down.
If you are formal, someone would want you to be more casual.
If you include casual conversations, someone would want you to stick to the point in official meetings.
There are always going to be people raising a question on you.
The question is:
What is YOUR truth?
What do you want to do?
How much weight you want to gain/lose?
How do you want to set up your relationships?
Do you value kindness more than anything else?
And when you know what YOU want, here’s a repetition for the nth time:
It DOES NOT matter what others say.
Some good friends figure out a way to chill.
Most others figure out a way to negatively thrill.
Focus on the former, and life will never be still 🙂
PS: I don’t talk to my relatives per se, but this time I had to, because of my birthday :)))
More I have stacked having lesser work that is more valuable and comes with bigger responsibilities, the more I’ve to started realise that having more times precious.
Which means:
– “urgent work” is not important
– having a schedule is the way to get important things done.
– No is the biggest superpower.
It turns out, whatever we were taught in school – staying busy, working more, and saying yes in order to be liked – lose their power as we gain more wisdom.
With all that is going on in the world we need to be more powerful from within.
Trust yourself, your mindset is the biggest asset.
No news. More positivity. And some time in nature by going to the balcony / terrace.
You are all you have. And you can’t afford to lose your happiness like this every single day!
Self-control to not check WhatsApp because it is just a time-pass.
Self-control to block the negative people because you love yourself.
Self-control to sleep at a fixed time every night because early morning meditation and workout is superimportant to you.
Self-control to distance yourself from “friends” that drain your energy because you can’t love anyone unless you love yourself.
Self-control to have the self-control to not talk about this self-control in public and rather live by it, because doers rule the world.
Hustling. Grinding. Slogging in the hours.
All of this is pop culture’s definition of hard work.
Except that it’s false.
True hard work is when someone’s good or bad deeds do not invoke a reaction from you.
If the above line seemed difficult, it may be possible that you’re just wasting your time instead of doing the real hard work.
When parents force their grown up kids to do something, kids feel pressured.
When kids finally take their plunge, they feel guilty.
And I want you to know – in either situations, do what is right. It never goes out of style. When you do that, you don’t need to feel guilty. Do your best. And then trust yourself.
I recently conducted an AMA on Instagram about the best thing that had happened to people in 2021 so far.
The responses were surprising.
While I had expected people to say things like got a new job, promotion, etc., most responses went with:
1. Started prioritising myself.
2. Taking care of what I want.
3. Took up yoga to for myself.
4. Moved to a new city.
5. Learnt to live on my own.
And so on and so forth.
Loved it! When people take care of themselves, they are able to take care of others more. Which isn’t true vice versa.
Looking forward to having more of them and seeing people get more powerful.
Someone left a bike like this outside our building.
We leave our imprints wherever we go.
And it becomes a karma.
Imagine how many people are going to give opposite of blessings to such tiny aspects of what you do.
Earn blessings, not opposite of those.
Sometimes we will never know why.
Sometimes we will never know why.
That is the explanation I have for you.
What I do know is: When things don’t happen as we wanted them to, always something great comes out of them. Always.
Have faith in yourself.
If you won’t, who will?
You must have seen people partying on the beach on Instagram.
Or making teddy bears of snow.
And making you feel like it is your life only that is at loss.
Here’s a silent truth:
Someone I know personally posted a vacay pic of theirs, with a thoughtful caption and how happy they were truly being in this flow state of life. However, I know they are going through a really, really tough time. A super tough time.
It is great that they took a break, no doubts about that.
But here is what I want you to consider:
Choose the form of happiness you want to live in. And the coolest of the coolest people, who are your (real) role models, they hardly share their vacay pics online with a “success-filled” caption. Because they know that real happiness is the remaining 350 days as well, when we are not on a holiday.
Read the above line again.
For yourself.
This year, I’m doing something different: creating habits instead of goals. While I do have some goals at the back of my mind, they’re all effective when we build systems around them.
So here are mine:
1. Create one IG reel + one LinkedIn post daily. And write a Twitter thread every Tuesday about lessons from the book I’m reading.
2. Sleep by 9:30 PM. Daily.
3. Have daily habits of reading and meditation, and check my chart daily at EOD.
The only person between you and your happiness and success is you, and let good habits nudge you away from the old you.
Happy New Year folks! I’d love to listen to your habits, DM me on IG/Twitter/ LinkedIn with the handle nishthagehija26.
See you then, and 2021 will be the best year of your life!
I read somewhere that pain is just pain. Someone else’s intensity of pain doesn’t reduce your pain.
While most people may agree, I tend to disagree.
Someone else’s intensity of pain might be different from yours. And if we are unable to acknowledge that, it makes us more selfish and less empathetic.
If we are in pain and still can acknowledge someone else is in pain, we are truly a caring human being.
The past was horrible.
How could they do it to you?
How could you do it to yourself?
Do these thoughts sometimes encircle your mind? Like if that person from the past came back to you right now, you would hit them and vent out all your frustration?
Here’s the catch baby: Even if you did that, that won’t take away the past and its bruises.
To heal yourself, you have to heal yourself.
That is difficult.
That is the real hard work.
That will break you down into pieces several times before it actually makes you.
That will make you question yourself over and over again.
However, that will also be the right thing for you.
What’s the point of being behind those prison bars when on the sides of those bars is open space to run anywhere you need to?
Thanksgiving is all about…
• Being grateful to your farmers, because without them, even pizza wasn’t possible.
• Being grateful for the electricity, otherwise how would geyser operate?
• A thousand more things tbh, but today, let’s stop with the fact that we have almost survived 2020 stronger and better.
What else could thanksgiving be about?