It pays to NOT be the cool kid

Do you sometimes feel that your hard work isn’t validated?

Let me tell you a story of the cool kid.

It is easy to be the cool kid.

The cool kid does nothing significant.

The cool kid is just hanging around trying to look cool.

Does things that get attention of everyone.

Anything that escapes hard work and still brings in validation is what the cool kid lives by.

Except, that they themselves know they are hollow.

And that’s sad.

Because every effort of theirs is an attempt to look cooler by covering up that hollowness.

And in a sheer suddenness of move, the cool kid does something that they were supposed to do. When they do this, all of a sudden they become cooler. Because no one had expected them to do this!

Isn’t that a “virtuous” cycle?

Friends, we all come across “the cool kids” in every setup, in every work structure that we are a part of.

But you know what?

I have never seen a cool kid being trusted.

Or being entrusted with responsibilities.

Or even being looked forward to as a professional.

We can play around with colleagues. Because their validation was the first thing the cool kid was after.

However, rising higher is always preceded by hard work. Always.

What does true hard work mean?

Hustling. Grinding. Slogging in the hours.
All of this is pop culture’s definition of hard work.

Except that it’s false.

True hard work is when someone’s good or bad deeds do not invoke a reaction from you.

If the above line seemed difficult, it may be possible that you’re just wasting your time instead of doing the real hard work.

Entitlement

Today I came across a wonderful story on LinkedIn, wanted to share the lesson from it here.

A guy had gone to a tea stall, where he saw a father struggling to get his daughter admitted into a top college.

The man had worked really hard, and the daughter had gotten into a top engineering college. More so, he was willing to work harder to support her through college.

So this guy who posted on LinkedIn offered his help, and after few minutes of helping him out, also offered this Uncle to keep his phone number. Now he will help Uncle and his daughter.

Which brings me to hunger.
When we are hungry in life, we help others in satisfying their hunger.
When we are happy in life, we help others get happier.
When we have risen from nothing, we love to help others rise up.

However, only the people without entitlement can do it.
Only the people who love hard work can help others in theirs. The ones who feel they can work less and get done with, don’t know what lies ahead of them.
Only the people who believe they “have it all” actually have it all. As the 1984 Apple commercial states: “They push the human race forward.”

So, are we pushing the human race forward? Or are we pushing ourselves backward by letting entitlement get in?

How to get what you want

How can you get what you want?

One option is very valid: Try. Put in the efforts. Do the hard work. Which is all very beautiful and necessary.

There’s another option as well: See yourself as awareness, just aware of everything.

It takes a lifetime to learn the second one. But when we do, we won’t read a blog titled “How to get what you want” 🙂