- Be unkind to them.
- Do not respond to their messages/emails.
- Be rigid in asking for things you need from them.
In the short term, it feels like the best thing to do.
In reality, it hurts no one but the doer.
Tag: work
That weird thing happened years ago.
Someone played with your heart 12 years ago.
Someone threw you out of their life 11 years ago.
Someone told you that you were not needed, 10 years ago.
Learn the lessons, forget the memory.
Allow yourself to heal, but do not allow that person again.
Be at peace and ease with past, but do not allow it to add to the present its cast.
Don’t get inspired by people’s success on social media, their blue tick, the content they create, how much money they make, what all they have done, etc.
Rather, get inspired by their courage, the vibes they give, the joy you feel being around them, and most importantly, how much do you get to execute from them to their lives.
Worshipping people is easy.
Because it puts blinders on our wisdom and makes us pure devotees.
Getting inspired by their hard work is tough.
Because now you will have to put in that hard work as well.
Yesterday I had a usual meeting with my boss, and he told me to not worry about work.
He also offered to back me up for my work, and was glad I took some time to reflect.
I, in fact, offered to do some work today since I was offered in the evening, and he refused.
Bestest boss ever!!
- Take breaks while working, and stretch
- Sleep well AND on time – and you will be the most beautiful person
- You can help others only when you help yourself
- Get out and get some green time
Most people don’t want to support your dreams – even if on the outside they appear to.
Most people want you to work for their dreams.
Sad, but true.
Work, but work for yourself as well.
And you shall never sleep unhappily.
Authenticity
Wanting others to succeed
Communicating
Working with ethics
Rooting for others’ success (Most won’t, even if it appears that they do)
1. Taking no breaks
2. Taking others’ PoVs seriously
3. Not taking time to reflect
- I love to go through my good work – once or twice more. And then, I forget about it 🙂
- I keep giving my parents more chances. But, sometimes you have to detach and love together.
- People hardly surprise you. They are simply judging you to not follow your intuition.
Even though you love your work,
Even though you feel energised,
Even though your boss is super-supportive by not micromanaging you
You must take an off on the weekends and on the festivals.
Because things that are meant to be enjoyed and relished are the things that are meant to be enjoyed and relished.
There is no substitute to not spending time with yourself and reflecting, because only in emptiness you get to understand yourself.
Which makes you all the more productive when you return to work.
I am usually very chilled out in life however when it comes to work I really want to it done. Mostly because it has my signature on it.
For example, the website will go live tomorrow however my boss had a chilled out tonality while giving a loom feedback. Yes nothing would go live without his heads up however the knowledge that nothing would change if you worry about it – is something I gotta copy from my boss.
Not sure tbh. Maybe this sense of urgency also drives me and my team. However, we will figure it out 🙂
TIL:
1. Being right is better than being nice.
2. You can be kind still be right.
3. People would rather work for a competent boss who is difficult, than an incompetent nice person (this one is copy pasted from my boss).
- I ask a lot of questions. Nothing would be clear to their audience if it is not clear to me.
- Work in advance – schedule entire content in advance. Prevents last-minute unwanted stress.
- Give more than I am paid for. I charge high prices, but always make sure they are getting more than what I had committed to. Win-win for both 🙂
Let go of the need for validation.
Let go of the need to have the credit.
Let go of the illusion that you aren’t enough.
Let go of the fact that your childhood can’t change.
Let go of the fact that people will love you for your truth.
Let go of the people who don’t care for you as a human being.
Let go of the unprofessional people who want you to take care of 100% professionalism.
Let go, Nishtha. That is when you will truly be able to hold what is 100% yours – your positivity and power.
Some rules of professionalism that you will never be taught, yet are the most important ones:
- Respond.
Yes, as simple as this. Bro, there is no point taking out the frustration of your bf / gf / ex on to your professional relationships. If someone is asking, it is professional to respond. If someone is sending an information, it is professional to give a thumbs up.
People don’t work with people for product or services. People work for the care. Give them! Because it’s the right thing to do. - Be on time.
On time means on time. If it is a Zoom call, 4 pm means 4 pm. Not 4:15, stating 15 minutes is okay. No it’s not. So is the case with in-person meetings.
The formula is again simple. People see how much you care about them. That will make them decide if they can refer you to others, or figure out a way to get out of this engagement asap. - Do what you say you will do. EVERY. SINGLE. TIME.
The line is maarofied from my boss, however, emotions are the same.
You say you will deliver a report by 7? Keep an internal deadline of 5 and email it max by 5:30.
You say you will come back? Be specific and tell by when will you come back. Not next week. Rather which day in the next week.
You say you need time to think? Perfect. Can you please communicate by when will you respond?
Repetition hashtag three: People care for people who care. It simply shows you are involved.
Living an organised professional life does not make you Monica from F.R.I.E.N.D.S.
It just makes you an accountable human being, about whom people would not think twice, before referring.
- The right boss
- The power to say no to those who don’t respect your time
- Habit of spending at least half an hour in nature, daily.
1. Went to the mall after 20 months perhaps. Had to buy chappal. Went to Crossword Book store, got lost there and came back 🙂
2. Good to see life back to normal. I feel good for dahi papdi waale bhaiya, SIM card waale bhaiya, e rickshaw waale bhaiya, shakarakand waali Didi, and all those people whose employment depended on going out.
3. As I was going through the Crossword Book Store today, I also thought of fundamental rules of life. Here we go:
4. A good question for you: What parts of “normal” are even worth returning to?
Letting go of 1.5 year old client at the end of this month.
We have grown together. In our business. And work. And maybe as human beings as well as our professional relationships.
However, as we grow, we change priorities.
For me, I need answers to work related questions to create content on personal branding. For him, he has just raised funding and maybe (rightly) does not have time. It is, thus, inappropriate for me to continue with inauthentic content.
The best part, which I also believe is the most mature part: He respected my decision instead of trying to stop me.
Btw, the reason for leaving that I have communicated to him is me not having time out of my day job. In reality, it is his lack of time for his own content that is making me make this decision.
Over the past few months, I have had several conversations with him about sharing his content, along with citing examples from other creators. However, since things aren’t changing much, it is better for us to part ways.
Still, he remains one of the most trusting and easiest clients I’ve ever worked with.
Bless him, with a better content writer, and the best business 🙂
- The ability to not press Alt + Tab while working.
- The ability to focus only on the Google Doc you’re working on, and not reach out to your phone.
- The ability to forgive your “friends” who never asked for an apology.
- The ability to grow your people yet be inspiring instead of dominating.
- The ability to sit for 90 minutes straight and only work.
7 life lessons no one teaches you about succeeding at work:
- If you are taking up extra work, it goes without saying that it will not affect your existing work.
- You can be best friends. Or you can do your work without biases. You can’t do both.
- If no one has to follow up with you, you are gold.
- Keeping your commitments and sharing your work status – are the two things that will make you a star.
- It is not the hours of work you put in. It is the heart in those hours you put in – that makes the entire difference!
- When you start giving away credit, you stop craving for it in the first place.
- Read #4 again.