When we feel empty, most of us navigate to social media.
Except that it doesn’t help.
Instead, what really helps is appreciation.
Whenever we are appreciated by someone, we feel a sense of validation.
Except, that it won’t come always.
So why not appreciate ourselves every time?
Why not be grateful for what is working?
Why not, be our own cheerleader?
Of course we can, when we can do it all the time for others.
If you feel lack of love, talk to your Mom.
If you feel lack of understanding, talk to your best friend.
If you feel lack of health, watch an influencer’s video on YouTube.
If you feel you lack happiness, talk to a kid.
If you feel away from yourself, talk to yourself.
What is the cost of living life on your own terms?
You will be criticised by people who aren’t living their life on their own terms.
Don’t blame them, have sympathy for them.
Don’t wait for them to say sorry, you forgive them.
More than anything else, don’t stop when they want to live life according to you. They aren’t happy, you please don’t give up on yours because of their lack of it. The best way to make someone happy is to be happy yourself
What if a recruiter found a profile of gold and expressed the candidate clearly how good they were?
What if an influencer thanked a fan from the bottom of their heart when they did a nice gesture for them?
What if a boss voluntarily thanked an employee for the contribution they brought on the table?
We don’t express our truest emotions in our work because when we were on the receiving side of things, this is how the world worked.
The world we live in, is the world we have so meticulously created. So does the power to change vest onto us. How will we use it?
1. Never type an e-mail in an impulse.
2. Attend lesser (read: no) parties.
3. Don’t assume, simply ask.
4. If at all you assume about people, assume the most positive outcome. Assuming about work isn’t even allowed until made clear.
5. Read Naval Ravikant daily.
For almost half a year, we’ve all been working remotely. While the new world comes along with its advantages and disadvantages, there is something under the covers we fail to see:
Since we lack communication, we fall in the trap of assuming. That assumption is often towards the negative side.
Perhaps we can’t have more communication with others anyway.
So why not start having those with our own selves? Why not start figuring out the most powerful meanings, when the meaning is up to us? Why do we have to just go the negative way?
For several months, I’ve been trying to change a habit of mine, which is: to not check work related WhatsApp messages and emails on Sundays.
However, despite multiple efforts, wasn’t able to get off the habit.
Same thing happened yesterday. I attended to work messages in the first half.
In the second half, I went to play badminton with my nephews and nieces. As a result, when I came back, still I didn’t open their WhatsApps. I didn’t have the urge in the first place!
It shows the power of physical activity on our mind, and how much controlling power we have.
No matter how important or urgent the work is, nothing is more important than the much-needed nothingness.
One of the most fascinating things about life is mistakes.
More interesting than mistakes, is about studying people who make mistakes.
There are three kinds of people:
1. Who realise they have made a mistake, admit it, and try not to make the same mistake twice.
They are the top 1% of the world. Even if they are not famous, they are indispensable in whatever they do.
2. Who realise they have made a mistake, and don’t admit it.
The three-letter word comes in. However, there is still hope that they will learn from their mistakes, even silently.
3. Who do not realise they have made a mistake.
They are the people in deepest pain, and aren’t aware of it.
As much as we’d hate admitting it, we all are surrounded by someone in each category, the third one being the most vulnerable ones.
a. Bless them.
b. Focus on the good in your life versus the opposite in their life.
c. Chill man!
Everyone is fighting a silent battle we aren’t aware of.
The joy of life, is learning to deal with these people in an effortless manner, that you be responsible for not allowing anyone to take your happiness away.
Nothing will go right in our lives unless,
a. We start appreciating what we have right now.
b. We understand that our positivity has the power to change people.
c. We believe that when people show us who they are, we need to believe them as Maya Angelou said.
If you want better results, make better choices.
If you want the same results, make the same choices.
If you want worse results, do nothing.
We are not what we do. We are what we choose to do. And that makes a world of difference.