- Be unkind to them.
- Do not respond to their messages/emails.
- Be rigid in asking for things you need from them.
In the short term, it feels like the best thing to do.
In reality, it hurts no one but the doer.
Raw. Real. Unfiltered content. That you'll relate to.
In the short term, it feels like the best thing to do.
In reality, it hurts no one but the doer.
Yesterday I had a usual meeting with my boss, and he told me to not worry about work.
He also offered to back me up for my work, and was glad I took some time to reflect.
I, in fact, offered to do some work today since I was offered in the evening, and he refused.
Bestest boss ever!!
TIL:
1. Being right is better than being nice.
2. You can be kind still be right.
3. People would rather work for a competent boss who is difficult, than an incompetent nice person (this one is copy pasted from my boss).
First day of offsite.
Life lessons learnt:
Also, did I mention – how to find solace in your own company ๐
Recently I happened to conduct the hiring process for a team member, starting from creating the form to making them run through several steps of hiring, and here are some life lessons I learnt:
1. People will reveal themselves if you just sit and listen.
2. Be real. I had fun while talking with them, did not ask weird interview questions, and more than anything else, made the conversation interesting for them by researching about them before the interview.
3. While you may come across many sad stories that you may want to give them the job even though they are not eligible, itโs best to not give them the job. Because it will set them up for failure anyway. Not the best thing to happen to them.
Recent life lessons from being a manager:
The more you care only about getting positive feedback, the more you will escape your growth.
Your work is to excel at your work. If youโre constantly degrading at it, youโre making it impossible for others to trust you.
Donโt focus on being liked. Focus on being curious, learning, and really really listening!
Donโt send that angry message / email. Calm yourself down.
People are people. They are going to overestimate what they do. So donโt feel let down when they
You wonโt be a superhero when you commit to doing 10 projects and you do 6. You will be a superhero when you commit 6 and do 6. Your words matter. A lot.
Donโt try to impress your boss. Or anyone. The more you try to do that, they will sniff it. They just expect you to be real. And do the good old hard work. Along with the smart one.
Talk to your boss. Talk about your problems, whatโs troubling you, what isnโt working, etc. Donโt expect him to get back to you every single day.
But, at the end of the day, you should be happy going to work each day ๐
Everyone has a dark side.
I am good to you, but maybe I am not the same way to everyone, where I should be.
Someone is a good boss, but he fires one of his employees after every half a year.
A human being talks about culture, yet fails to maintain it for themselves.
What should we do when do have a dark side?
Here’s what: Think about challenging your beliefs in solitude. It would be hard, but then you would not be hard on others.
Yes. No.
Most people want the first answer to everything they do.
A few want the second one as well, especially in the absence of no response.
We all work in teams. Even if you are a solopreneur, you work with your clients, partners, etc.
And a great team is built by communication.
Hereโs some of the best ways of communication:
Hereโs the reason of this blog, and why practising this difficult exercise of โnot saying noโ even when the answer is no, is super important:
A. Most people are already suffering at an emotional level. Even if you think they arenโt, still they are. One more disapproval, is too big a thing for an already tired mind.
B. The goal of any business, any team, any work, is to make things better. If we are making things better and making people worse, we are simply accumulating opposite of blessings into our business. That karma, has to come back some day.
C. People want to know the response. Learn to say no gracefully instead of giving no response. No communication is the best miscommunication.