Freelancing so far

The past few months of freelancing have been super fun.

Got some really amazing clients, and having the work I love.

Looks like a fairy tale, isn’t it?

Of course not. Because out of very few things that have worked out, there are 10X things that haven’t!

Applied for freelancing jobs that didn’t work out.

Cold emails that didn’t get responded.

And opportunities I was sure of getting didn’t come.

However, what did work out was engagement and relationships with the clients that I am working with right now.

No formula, no random tricks. Just success is directly proportionate to the efforts you put in.

The number game.

It didn’t work out

If it didn’t work out, something better is along the way.

If it did, you can create it even more epic.

Life isn’t about hits and misses. Life is about the hit you’ve made by being alive. You have a fiduciary responsibility to be the best of who you can be. If you don’t want to be in the life you don’t like, move. Stop wasting time on what didn’t work.

Life lessons from today

1. Taking notes while reading is an excellent way to grasp (and re-read) important information.

2. Don’t worry about the next 8 years, think about the next 8 days and executing super hard on them.

3. “Don’t charge for how much time it takes you. Charge for the value you provide.” – Ankur Warikoo

4. Hanging around with the right people is priceless. Even if you’re paid less, figuring out how to earn money from other sources would be easier.

5. What you think about, you being about. Never the other way round.

6. Spending less time on Twitter and Instagram is a phenomenal saving of your time. Time = money. Period.

7. Feeling sad is a habit more than circumstances. So is feeling happy no matter what.

When you don’t like someone…

When you don’t like someone, going about not liking them forever is a tough job.

What if you asked yourself instead: “Why do I not like them?”

It may be possible that their values aren’t aligned with yours.

It may also be possible that they just don’t know better.

And when you make time to think deep with yourself, you’ll be able to make an informed choice, not the one that is out of rage and impulse.

You get the life basis the people you allow. The first person to allow is you, not the byproduct of someone else’s actions.

Make it quick

Just four minutes before the work hours were about to get over, I got a call.

It was a concall, and we discussed on the topic we were supposed to.

Then the third party, who was from outside the team, just said “Bye bye” and hung down the phone.

Nothing like, “Okay, let’s go!” or “Cool, let’s experiment and see” et al, just coming to the point and finishing it off.

Wow!

Just wow!

Though we just cannot do this in all the calls, we may definitely do this in 50-70% of the calls.

Imagine what would happen to all the decisions of the day like that!

How was the day today?

This question is holding far more importance these days than anything else.

Well, yesterday I ended up the day my way. So slept well, and woke up really well.

And will do that daily.

It is just a formula. If you don’t apply it, you lose it. Every moment of life, you are just fighting a silent fight to keep your positivity alive. Today I did. Tomorrow, a little better. And a little more.

We shall overcome. We will overcome.

Strong and happy. Maybe!

I want to put a strong and happy face and tell it’s going alright.

I also want to be grateful for the love and blessings that I have been blessed with.

I also want to do great and productive stuff.

However it just isn’t.

Family thinks I’m too lost. In reality, I am too lost.

They think I’m working too much. In reality, I am trying to work too much.

They perhaps believe I don’t care. In reality, can someone please care without conditions attached?

Will learn to deal with it, navigate it, fight it, tell myself it will be over.

And it will.

Till then, we may just learn to switch from spreading awareness to becoming the awareness.

The equation with boss

Boss.

The moment one uses this word, it comes across as someone who is dominating, trying to pull you down, and thinks nothing in your interest, only in the interest of getting work done.

While I have worked with several bosses over the past years, I understand getting a good one is merely a chance of luck. Otherwise we are all doomed.

When you have a good one, there may be times when you may still want to change parts of their personality.

Of course, you may be considering job switch or client switch (because the client is also a boss) or making any other move, there is something you can always change, which is: becoming more elevated in your state of mind.

This may sound like the most obvious answer. 

Feeling bad and rejected because of boss? Make a more elevated state of mind.

Feeling resentful towards them? Create a more elevated state of mind.

Want to do gossip about them? Create a more elevated state of mind.

You may actually not want to do that in all these situations, and just go and deflate their car tyre as an easy option.

However, here’s the harsh reality friends: Unless you change your own attitude (no matter how good it is right now – remember, elevation 😇), you won’t have the power to change your attitude towards someone else.

By all means keep looking for a new job if this one doesn’t feel right for you. 

However, in the midst, in the process of finding out a new one, is it really worth your time to spend emotional and mental energy on someone who probably doesn’t care? Perhaps they are going through a bigger life problem that you aren’t aware – and their behavior is simply a reflection of that problem. Maybe their kid is not as bright as you and that’s why they want to pull you down.

Perhaps none of these reasons exist and still they aren’t humanly nice to you. Everyone is fighting a battle we don’t know – not even about our immediate family.

To make the change outside, starting within is perhaps the first step. And the last one. And all the steps in the middle. Everything else will be taken care of.

No, no one would change because of that. But you won’t be losing yourself in the process of coping up or finding a new boss. That’s when, you become your own boss.