The past was horrible.
How could they do it to you?
How could you do it to yourself?
Do these thoughts sometimes encircle your mind? Like if that person from the past came back to you right now, you would hit them and vent out all your frustration?
Here’s the catch baby: Even if you did that, that won’t take away the past and its bruises.
To heal yourself, you have to heal yourself.
That is difficult.
That is the real hard work.
That will break you down into pieces several times before it actually makes you.
That will make you question yourself over and over again.
However, that will also be the right thing for you.
What’s the point of being behind those prison bars when on the sides of those bars is open space to run anywhere you need to?
We had gone for an official team retreat. Most of us were staying in Noida, and we had gone for a 2D 1N stay in a resort in Gurgaon. The team was packed in 3-4 cars, one of which was mine. I was prepared to listen to the female-driver jokes, because not getting affected by them had become a forte by then.
I remember we had halted at a place, and the male colleague got out of the back seat and came to the driving seat to me, and said he will drive. That was rude, however in a society that anyway screws female drivers, this was a normal meme material. I politely refused, stating that I love driving long distances, and I wanted to drive.
While I did get a “chance” to drive, why am I sharing this story with you today?
Because when we say we need equal rights for women, et al, we need to remember that most often women willingly give up their rights.
Having the awareness to respectfully refuse, is the Super Power we didn’t even know existed.
Stand for yourself, people! How will anyone help you out if you aren’t in a position to help yourself out?
There will come a time when your righteousness will be tested. People will question your energy, your positivity and most importantly, your values.
That question won’t be direct. It will be in the form of allegation, bad words or perhaps even threat.
Now you’re left with two options:
When you don’t have that authority, justify yourself in your head.
Understand. Questioning you may be because of only two reasons:
a) They are not too fond of you. Perhaps your high vibes make them want to try more. When they can’t, the easiest way is to bring you down.
In this situation, simply stop. Even if they are totally wrong, what they need is to be “right”. Work on yourself to calmly respond and put your point forward. Then don’t get attached to they accepting it. Bless them, and keep working within.
b) They said something that really needs to change in you, their method was however not right.
In this situation, determine to work on yourself. And for the adage “be respectful”, you start at your end by respecting the person who disrespected you. Your respect to them (from within) will be the best gift to them.
You have the self respect not to be sensitive to someone else’s way of being. That way, you empower the world.