You will never know what someone else is going through.
Beneath their anger is the child their parents never spent time with.
Beneath their gossips is the inner hurts they never healed.
Beneath their frustrations with you is the frustration that they are not able to deal with their lives.
Beneath every pain they inflict upon you is the pain within them they are trying to deal with, and unable to do so.
It’s really not about you, as much as their hurting words and actions are about them.