Tag: problem

The problem is the problem

Three things that I do not understand:
1. People fall in love at X speed.
2. They fall out of love at 2X speed.
3. They have mental health issues at 3X speed.

Reasons:
– Parents not paying enough attention
– FOMO, because everyone on social media seems sorted
– We think we need someone else to complete us.

How to get out of this loop:
a. Get validation through who you are and what you do
b. Get validation through good books, videos and podcasts. They are super super super underrated.
c. Spend time alone. Daily. Outdoors. At least 30 minutes. If that could be a nature walk, nothing like it!

The only problem with our problems

The only problem with our problems is we think we shouldn’t have them.
We, thus, go about hiding them from others.
In so doing, we aren’t doing well either – neither at work nor outside of work.

What’s the solution, then?

The solution is to tell those around you, that you are going through some problems, that might not make you your 100%.
If we don’t tell them and try to do whatever we can, “whatever we can” becomes our default standard.

This is not who we are.
And living life as someone else, helps no one else.

I want to…

I also want to have as much engagement as GaryVee.

I also want to have as many views as MostlySane.

I also want to not think a bit before buying Zara clothes.

I also want to…

We want to do a ton of things.
And probably that will take a lot of time.

That’s not the problem.

Problem is that we are not even starting.
Problem is that we keep waiting for that ride without getting out on the road.
Problem is we don’t trust ourselves.

Problem is, we don’t even know that we are the problem.

How will we ever get what we want, if we never get out of our own way and take action?

“The journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.”
– Confucius

What is it that you are waiting for?

Are you also feeling lost?

There are different ways and functions of feeling lost.

You could be doing well financially.
You could be doing well in your relationships.

But, the relationship that you have with yourself, that one is a dangerous one.

That is what leads us to feeling lost.

There are differing ways to solve the problem. Start like this: Where is one hour where you could take control of your life?

Start with one hour in twenty four. Small part is chew-able, doable, and relatable.
It will make you more confident, powerful, and one day at a time – less lost. Isn’t that what we all are looking for?

When you have a terrible life problem

Someone in my circle, is going through a tough time in their life.

They have been going through a lot of tough decisions that they want to take.

Last couple of days, we got to spend some time together.

I spoke with them on some days, and they were okay the next day.

Today they’re back to square one, wishing and wanting the world to change.

Here’s the secret about the world: It will change the moment we change.

In order for us to change, it will:

a. initially require focussed effort

b. an effort to leave your bad habits

c. the belief that in order to change your life, you need to change your life.


The dependency on people is short lived. You get to spend your entire life with yourself. What you choose to do when no one is watching, is what you get to become when everyone is watching.

The problem

If you wanna know what’s your problem, just try spending some time with yourself in solitude. That’s the real game.

All your weaknesses will come to the surface.

All your problems will come out with a revelation: that the source of them is common.

And when the source of that is common, the solution has to one.

What is that one, has to be decided and implemented by the one reading this right now.

Implement. Execute.