…make sure you do not transmit that to others.
Open, by Andre Agassi
Sometimes I find myself walking to my bookshelf, pick up Andre Agassi’s memoir Open, and look at this back cover pic of Agassi.
The kid is quite confused.
The kid hated tennis.
The grown-up Agassi hated tennis.
But with the weight of that racquet too much to handle, he managed it for one of the greatest careers in history.
And perhaps even found himself in the process.
This kid gives me power, strength, and often vulnerability, to not resist what’s coming.
In what lies unseen, you will see yourself.
In what you don’t know, you will know more.
In what you hate, you will end up loving yourself.
The equation with boss
The moment one uses this word, it comes across as someone who is dominating, trying to pull you down, and thinks nothing in your interest, only in the interest of getting work done.
While I have worked with several bosses over the past years, I understand getting a good one is merely a chance of luck. Otherwise we are all doomed.
When you have a good one, there may be times when you may still want to change parts of their personality.
Of course, you may be considering job switch or client switch (because the client is also a boss) or making any other move, there is something you can always change, which is: becoming more elevated in your state of mind.
This may sound like the most obvious answer.
Feeling bad and rejected because of boss? Make a more elevated state of mind.
Feeling resentful towards them? Create a more elevated state of mind.
Want to do gossip about them? Create a more elevated state of mind.
You may actually not want to do that in all these situations, and just go and deflate their car tyre as an easy option.
However, here’s the harsh reality friends: Unless you change your own attitude (no matter how good it is right now – remember, elevation 😇), you won’t have the power to change your attitude towards someone else.
By all means keep looking for a new job if this one doesn’t feel right for you.
However, in the midst, in the process of finding out a new one, is it really worth your time to spend emotional and mental energy on someone who probably doesn’t care? Perhaps they are going through a bigger life problem that you aren’t aware – and their behavior is simply a reflection of that problem. Maybe their kid is not as bright as you and that’s why they want to pull you down.
Perhaps none of these reasons exist and still they aren’t humanly nice to you. Everyone is fighting a battle we don’t know – not even about our immediate family.
To make the change outside, starting within is perhaps the first step. And the last one. And all the steps in the middle. Everything else will be taken care of.
No, no one would change because of that. But you won’t be losing yourself in the process of coping up or finding a new boss. That’s when, you become your own boss.
Love and hate
We have different levels of love.
And different levels of hate.
That is what causes differences in the way we feel.
Basically arising out of inability to communicate properly.
Let them know. Or yourself.