- I ask a lot of questions. Nothing would be clear to their audience if it is not clear to me.
- Work in advance – schedule entire content in advance. Prevents last-minute unwanted stress.
- Give more than I am paid for. I charge high prices, but always make sure they are getting more than what I had committed to. Win-win for both 🙂
Tag: Success
This blog is something I do not popularise much about.
I write here religiously.
From the heart.
Without worrying about the algorithm.
And even what so called friends would say.
Here I come to write my heart.
What I am feeling today.
Maybe it is transient.
Like everything else is.
But, it writing what I am feeling in the moment, helps me heal.
Isn’t it the reason why we all are here?
To heal.
We may not accept it, but in order for a huge part of our life to glow, we have to go through the messy process of vacuum cleaning so that everything that emerges is flawless.
Anyway, if at all you must do something ever, it is to write your blog.
Not to grow your following.
Not to show any vanity.
Rather, to pour your heart out.
To write content that you wish no one read, other than you.
And you will come at a place, where you won’t regret it.
Trust me!
Let go of the need for validation.
Let go of the need to have the credit.
Let go of the illusion that you aren’t enough.
Let go of the fact that your childhood can’t change.
Let go of the fact that people will love you for your truth.
Let go of the people who don’t care for you as a human being.
Let go of the unprofessional people who want you to take care of 100% professionalism.
Let go, Nishtha. That is when you will truly be able to hold what is 100% yours – your positivity and power.
- Because you let go of your internal issues
- You tend to think clearly
- You become a better speaker
- You don’t need validation from others.
- You find peace in your own company
1. Help
2. It’s okay!
3. I am sorry.
4. I’ll go meditate now.
5. You’re doing a great job.
The reason for getting sad is never the real reason.
The loss.
The no.
The rejection.
The lack.
The “never”.
These are not the real reasons. They are just drapes to cover up the original reasons.
The real reason is we are crying for something deeper.
We believe we don’t matter.
We think that our work doesn’t make an impact.
Or our presence doesn’t make anyone happy.
Or that everything will be happy even if we left.
Or perhaps that there will never be a tomorrow.
That is the real thing that makes us sad.
Think through it about what made you sad recently.
The reason was one of these.
However, the truth of life is this:
YOU matter.
YOU are important.
YOUR work makes a difference.
YOUR absence would make things difficult.
YOU are needed.
This holds true irrespective of what ANYONE tells you.
Pause for a moment to read this.
Attention
Focus
Peace
Sleep
Rest
Books
Reflection
Could we be asking for any more?
1. Speak your truth.
2. Ask for feedback.
3. Play Plot 4 with Mom 🙂
Law of attraction says that if you are looking for a partner, keep the seat next to you empty.
Thus, I purposefully do NOT keep the seat next to me empty 🙂
Some rules of professionalism that you will never be taught, yet are the most important ones:
- Respond.
Yes, as simple as this. Bro, there is no point taking out the frustration of your bf / gf / ex on to your professional relationships. If someone is asking, it is professional to respond. If someone is sending an information, it is professional to give a thumbs up.
People don’t work with people for product or services. People work for the care. Give them! Because it’s the right thing to do. - Be on time.
On time means on time. If it is a Zoom call, 4 pm means 4 pm. Not 4:15, stating 15 minutes is okay. No it’s not. So is the case with in-person meetings.
The formula is again simple. People see how much you care about them. That will make them decide if they can refer you to others, or figure out a way to get out of this engagement asap. - Do what you say you will do. EVERY. SINGLE. TIME.
The line is maarofied from my boss, however, emotions are the same.
You say you will deliver a report by 7? Keep an internal deadline of 5 and email it max by 5:30.
You say you will come back? Be specific and tell by when will you come back. Not next week. Rather which day in the next week.
You say you need time to think? Perfect. Can you please communicate by when will you respond?
Repetition hashtag three: People care for people who care. It simply shows you are involved.
Living an organised professional life does not make you Monica from F.R.I.E.N.D.S.
It just makes you an accountable human being, about whom people would not think twice, before referring.
- The right boss
- The power to say no to those who don’t respect your time
- Habit of spending at least half an hour in nature, daily.
Letting go of 1.5 year old client at the end of this month.
We have grown together. In our business. And work. And maybe as human beings as well as our professional relationships.
However, as we grow, we change priorities.
For me, I need answers to work related questions to create content on personal branding. For him, he has just raised funding and maybe (rightly) does not have time. It is, thus, inappropriate for me to continue with inauthentic content.
The best part, which I also believe is the most mature part: He respected my decision instead of trying to stop me.
Btw, the reason for leaving that I have communicated to him is me not having time out of my day job. In reality, it is his lack of time for his own content that is making me make this decision.
Over the past few months, I have had several conversations with him about sharing his content, along with citing examples from other creators. However, since things aren’t changing much, it is better for us to part ways.
Still, he remains one of the most trusting and easiest clients I’ve ever worked with.
Bless him, with a better content writer, and the best business 🙂
Just because a toxic person is nice once, doesn’t mean they aren’t toxic anymore.
There are 4 stages of making money:
Stage 1:
Have no money, use your time to make more money.
Stage 2:
Have good enough money, where you don’t know what to do with it.
Still using your time to make more money.
Stage 3:
You pause from using your time to make more money.
Learn to make the best use of your free time.
And are still enjoying the more money that comes in.
Stage 4:
You do less, and you make more.
More than you could imagine.
Also, you have as much free time as you want!
I don’t know if my work sitting in a remote silo is making difference in the world.
I have no idea if the people I care for actually care for me (so I could move on or continue lol)
But you know what…
Sometimes not knowing is super powerful.
Because it makes you do your own thing.
Doing your own thing without the influence of others, makes you more of your better self.
It is under that “better self” that you become stronger and okay with the fact that the world is not okay with you!
7 life lessons no one teaches you about succeeding at work:
- If you are taking up extra work, it goes without saying that it will not affect your existing work.
- You can be best friends. Or you can do your work without biases. You can’t do both.
- If no one has to follow up with you, you are gold.
- Keeping your commitments and sharing your work status – are the two things that will make you a star.
- It is not the hours of work you put in. It is the heart in those hours you put in – that makes the entire difference!
- When you start giving away credit, you stop craving for it in the first place.
- Read #4 again.
I want to write about pain.
I want to write about pain I felt at a recent trip.
I want to write about the pain only my Mom saw in the photos, while everyone was saying I was having fun!
I want to write about the pain of self-betrayal when you don’t stay true to yourself.
I want to write about the loneliness of being abandoned by so-called friends.
I want to write about how is it even possible for people to wear different masks – of goodness on one side and of I don’t care on the other side.
I want to write about the pain I feel when I am sidelined, because I am not cool.
I want to write about the pain when people reach out to me only because I have access to certain data and information while others don’t.
I want to write about the pain I felt when you thought that just because I am strong, you can walk over me at any time.
I want to write about the pain that how I was so blinded to the truth that lay right in front of me, just because I craved validation.
I want to write about the pain I perhaps brought to other colleagues by running after useless validation.
I want to write about the pain of how I let my “friends” come to my home and take my book, do random stuff, talk loudly, etc., while I was not even allowed a place on their bed when I went to their home. How can I do such random stuff just for validation?
I want to write about the pain of how it is eating me up because from now on, I will show the strong non-vulnerable version of me.
I want to write about the pain of how I pick “familiar” unavailable people – either as ex-es or as friends. Btw, this one is liberating, because that is how I can change my patterns.
I want to write about the pain of writing about pain, just because I did not listen to my intuition.
It turns out, the intuition is always whispering to us to change our patterns. It is up to us to be silent enough to listen, so that we don’t carried away by the noise.
One of the things I’m proud of, is I keep giving updates of my work to my boss.
Without him asking.
Because he ought to know of stuff.
Yet, at the same time, he loves not following up.
So I share.
Because it is right.
On the other hand, I followed up with a team member who is running late with her work.
Sure, I am telling you so that “tu aaraam se reh sake”
What?
Is that not your work?
I just wish…
I just wish!
Just completed a trip with my team.
Few life lessons learnt:
- If being a friend interferes with your ability to become a leader, helps to be the leader first.
- Talk about others in your mind just like you talk to them about them.
- Learn to value loneliness.
- Before loving others, have you tried to love yourself?
- Only broken people break people.
Also, a note to 2-3 of my teammates whom I know I wasn’t 100% present with:
I’m sorry. I can do better. I love you, no matter how much or how little we spoke during this offsite.
Also, you are an amazing kid. Let no one else make you believe otherwise.
I tried high rope walking in the morning. Was veryyyy scared. Gave up. I wasn’t even ready to jump off the harness when I decided to give up. Was pushed.
Tried climbing the wall in the evening. Failed again.
But didn’t have even an iota of regret. It’s better to try and fail than to not try at all, I suppose.
Other than that, I really need to work on my looks. Looking way more untidy or it is lack of confidence due to so-called friends not being around.
So much of a normal day. Yet so much to learn.
Life is epic. With life lessons coming in.