We all need it each time we have lost our self control.
We lose our self control when we have not paused even for a moment to give it to ourselves.
We don’t give self control to ourselves because we think if we keep doing things for others, they will reciprocate and then we won’t need to fill ourselves up.
People might reciprocate but the only thing that is going to make you self-reliant is filling yourself up. The only way is books, nature walks, meditation, talking to yourself, morning pages.
Give to yourself. So you control yourself. You have the need to control. Fulfill it with yourself. So you don’t need to control others.