All our deals went well and deals that didn’t go well were because of the presence and lack of this little thing: understanding.
It is not a gift we give to the other person: it is a gift we give to ourselves when we do not make our mind hot and our heart taut. We save ourselves from a future cancer by being real and kind at the same time.
None but ourselves can save us.
That savage would only happen btw if we are taking the time to be aware through mindfulness, thinking in a journal, taking nature walks, in order to be answerable to the person in the mirror. Is that not worth the investment?