Yep, you read it right. Don’t stop blaming. Here’s how:
Take a past situation of that comes back to your mind over and over and over again. It is not about a colleague gossiping about you, or boss’s bad mood, or flight getting delayed.
It is about that “big hurtful incident” of the past. Whenever you are reminded of that incident your mind logically tells you to stop blaming them because it is not the right thing to do.
Perhaps the only reason you remember that past incident is because you never took the time to distill what happened and shifted instantly to not playing the blame game.
So for the next 24 hours, blame them in black and white (maybe in your journal and not in person to them). Write down all the things that they did were incorrect and left you in fury. Pour all your heart out and cry if you need to. Keep adding stuff to this list as it pops out in your head throughout these 24 hours.
When those 24 hours are done, rip that paper into pieces and burn those pieces. Do it man, seriously.
Then come back to yourself and tell that from now onwards, your life belongs to you and you only and not to anyone who played football / badminton / kabaddi with you.
Nope.
No more.
Over. Over. Overrrr.
And the next morning, all the futile steps that you had been taking to stop playing the blame game, will suddenly start getting fruitful.
