Here are the steps

Don’t ask for steps.

Because there aren’t any.

Except one: take the first step. And the next. And the next.

Repeat. For the rest of your life.

It takes hard work to become hard core.

It takes hard core commitment to get to that level of determination.

Like you were committed to that guy/girl, be committed to your work and hard core perseverance. The let the magic flow.