Stalking is of two types:
- Looking up someone we aren’t in touch with anymore
- Researching someone before a business conversation – interview, 1:1 chat or anything that would be good to know someone before we meet.
The former is past oriented. The latter is future oriented.
We’ll talk about the former. And why it isn’t something we should do.
You are trying to look up someone who isn’t a part of your life anymore. An old friend. A former relationship. A former work relationship that you don’t want to be in touch with anymore.
If something or someone isn’t a part of your present anymore, why do we make them a parcel of our present?
There is a reason they aren’t a part of your life. And a very valid reason.
Yet we try to check what they are up to these days.
We want to see how they have moved on.
We want to see if they are truly happy.
We also want to see why they are happy, if they are happy.
None of this would make a difference to your life.
If at all, it will only make your mind filled with waste. Anything that is not relevant today is waste.
What we should know, rather:
Everyone moves on. They should.
Everyone is happy. They should be.
Everyone is a different person from where you left them at. They should be.
Smart people don’t stalk.
Wise people don’t wander around anyone’s profile wilfully.
Happy people don’t heat up the hues that are already ashes.
There is power in truly letting go.
A place where you don’t let their social media presence waste even a minute of your life.
Your life belongs to you. Does not need to be dedicated by anyone’s social media presence. Even if it is a single second.
