On friends, conversations, and making time

Two days back, a school friend of mine and I were speaking over the phone.

She suggested it is good to speak at least once on Diwali, especially because our timings do not match.

During our conversation, we also reflected on how a common friend has lost touch, despite our repeated efforts to bring her in. We mutually agreed that everyone has their own busy schedules, but if you do not make a small effort to reach out, it simply means you do not care.

Amidst that, she suggested she decided to speak to me that day for half an hour, despite having to give milk to her father-in-law at that time. She told herself: “So what, I will serve him milk at 7.30 instead of 6.30. No big deal.”

Even I let go of some part of my schedule to speak to her, out of choice and happiness 🙂

The point I am trying to drive home is:

For people that are important to us but we don’t connect with them daily, I think it is important to make time for them. You cannot put everything on a calendar. Even people who I know are calendar freaks randomly call their friends. It’s not only okay, it is even important.

You make time because you care. Not out of obligation or return of favour. Because you want to. An important life lesson there.