Over the years of having conversations with people from multiple cities, age groups, work backgrounds, and even countries, I have come across a common observation:
The people who are the most opposed to listening to a no are the ones who have a great difficulty saying a no.
Here is what the conversations look like:
| What they should say | What they actually end up saying |
| “I would love to come to your party, however, I am visiting my parents. Sorry.” | “I’ll see.” And then never turn up. |
| “I love being at home and spending time with myself. Can we catch up next month, please? This way I would be energised.” | “Sure, see you next week.” Then they go and plan that outing, do not spend any time with themselves, do not plan their own life, and regret it later. |
When we don’t say what we should say, we end up creating more trouble than actually avoiding it.