Most of us, when talking, are not having a conversation. We are vomiting.
Vomiting our issues, our problems, how we were wrong, how the world is tilted against us, how someone else changing their life will end all our problems.
There is only one problem, though.
Change rarely happens at the level of your vomiting. If at all, vomiting makes you feel weak, powerless, and needing more medicine.
A wiser alternative, then, is to lean in and have a conversation.
Conversation about why something matters to you, and why that could matter to them. Conversation about how we can make a small change, instead of a magnanimous one. Conversation with yourself about why some trivialities are not worth chasing. Conversation and meditation about making ourselves more sorted, instead of distorted.
None of these are easy. But vomiting is harder.
Just like exercising, eating right and sleeping on time–every single day–isn’t easy. It requires sacrifice, planning and tons of discipline. But the opposite–feeling lethargic and not at our 100% is harder, because it costs us more than our energy.
Nothing is easier than choosing the difficult. In the long-term and the short-term.
