What about present trauma?
Yes your parents shouted at you and no one really sat down to speak to you beyond your achievements in your childhood?
Yet, through the trauma of loneliness and falling for wrong people and falling down after they made you feel worse, through sessions of crying and being lost, you finally found yourself.
And here you are, in the present. Being present. Being okay with life and loving it with all its grace and splendour and peace and joy and warmth.
You have outgrown past trauma. Not only that, you recognise that you can do better now. You are doing much better.
But then there exists the trauma of the present. The parts of your life that you know that if you don’t distance from them, they would continue withering you.
So what do you do? You use your present, empowered self to distance from the traumatic people and relationships.
It is difficult, but you have already walked the “easy” path and seen yourself suffer way bit too much. Distance is the answer.
Sometimes, love is best expressed when it starts with self-love.
