I was just observing that for the entire week I was at my parents’ home, I didn’t write.
Lesson learnt: Go to places that inspire you, not drain you.
More than that: Do not miss a blog. And you will get inspired :))
The definitions may be many. But the truest love flows, it does not force.
PS: It is NOT about romantic relationships. Far from it. Rather in every good relationship, this is the true litmus test.
Whenever you want to burst out at someone
Or blame them for not doing the right thing
Or want them to see the right thing
Or anything that involves not-so-happy response, take some time to respond.
It will calm you down.
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Btw, take a minute every hour to calm yourself down, and eventually every response of yours will be calmed down.
It is the worst excuse to not change your behaviour.
Who you are should be a reason to make any change happen, not resist it.
I recently completed a major writing project. Something I have never done before.
It took a lot of me. In more ways than I had expected.
Here is what I lost in the process:
- I had an epilepsy attack during the process. Because I woke up at 1o’clock to meet some mid-way timelines.
- My days were screwed up. Because I did not schedule the writing process.
- O wait. I did. First thing in the morning upon waking up. Because of which I continued losing the shine of my face as well as my productivity. Thus, the fits attack had to happen.
- After that, I just could not sleep less than 7 hours. Thus, face’s lustre came back. But it made me reflect as to how much of the previous sacrifice was actually worth it.
- More than the schedule, something that happened a lot in the process was a lot of my mood swings. I questioned myself if I should have picked this project up in the first place. I questioned myself if I had put a price tag to my soul by dealing with so much loneliness. I did not have an answer to why I picked up this project in the first place.
While I did deal with a lot in the journey of this project, I felt the happiest when I used to actually write.
That said, here are the good things that came out of the project:
- I really felt good on shipping the project. Not because I wouldn’t be working on it anymore. I would. Rather because I would not have to deal with so many heartbreaking mood swings I used to have because of writing that project.
- That said, I have now come to realise that creating content on social media is not going to get me where I want to get to. I have to think of other ways. Social media content is shallow. At least for the creativity I want to get to. I don’t mean it in a bad way, especially since I work with an influencer so social media technically pays my bills. However, deep work happens when you spend 23 hours and 45 minutes of the day away from social media.
- The work is hard. Practice is all you need. But it is the daily grind that will eventually make you what you want to be – a great writer.
Everything else, EVERYTHING else is a distraction. Everything. Including the work you do. It may pay you to keep you busy. But to find your happiness in your work, you have to do the hard work that will still seem hard despite you making 7-8 figures.
Go do the hard work that is easiest to ignore. Run behind those 30 minutes of daily writing. You will make more than what you think. And it ain’t only money.
No one is going to ask you that.
So you should do that to yourself.
Here is how I felt:
- Walked over
- Bought in lieu of time
- Being treated nicely because I was working on a major project
- Not sure if all of that is true or merely something I am not happy with
- If I am not happy with it, why am I not changing it?
- Why do I get drifted away when anyone is nice to me?
- PS: Nishtha, it is not called being drifted away. It is being real towards love.
- I felt literally weird for being paid money for some work and that’s it. Sometimes it feels like prostitution, albeit not of the body. And that’s scary. And scarry. Dealing with it in my own ways. Starting with changing my perception of it. But I also wonder, if there is any other way that part of work could become anything beyond paying and giving? Isn’t all work some sort of pay and get lost? I don’t know. But to introspect and to go deep into how to feel better is what I am going to think deeper into.
The other day I was working on a writing project, and had to write a lot of bulk content.
After a certain point, even in that time-bound project, I happened to write some good stuff after some venting out of bad stuff.
In order to write good, start with writing bad. You will end up writing well eventually.
It’s lonely. But no one can help you let go of your loneliness other than you.
The greatest victory of life is to find solace in your own company. Everything else is fleeting.
Think over it. Not OTT. Not best friend. Not someone who trusts you. Just your company, and the good content you consume that makes you a better version of you.
Everything else is a myth.
Be so grateful, that when someone sees a gratitude entry on an anonymous form, they should not be saying: “Could not be them.”
What do driven people mean when they say: “This is Day 1 of my work that I have been working on, for long?”
I have been thinking on this for long. I think here’s what they mean:
That they will be humble the way they were at the start.
That they will remain curious.
That they will never rest on their laurels.
That they will be kinder.
That they will never let success get to their head.
That they will be better, but never get out of beginner’s mindset.
It takes everything to be a starter, when you start arriving.
Humility does not only mean kindness.
Humility also means:
– Asking for help
– Having a conversation when things aren’t as good
– Reaching out if you can help
– Getting out of your own self
– Not letting success get to your head/
Humility is like a muscle. You need to build it daily, or you lose it.
The sad part is it is easiest to lose humility when you gain success, the part when you should have the most of humility.
That enemy of yours you think is conspiring against you?
No baby, they aren’t!
How do I know of it?
Because:
– They are conspiring about so many people that they have lost track of it.
– They are empty inside.
– They are only thinking about themselves. Trust me on this.
No one is conspiring. And even if they are, no one can ever affect a happy person. Always remember that 🙂
Numbness is caused not by lack of pain. Rather too much of it.
You have to CHOOSE to stay in a beautiful state of mind.
Let go. Let go. Let go.
You will help yourself more than your therapist.
Someone else doing bad in order for you to feel good is a sureshot way to feel worse.
If you think of anyone other than God, it will only make you feel worse.
To not burst out at people when they show their true colours.
Let there be patience and ease of an hour.
It makes your anger go away.
But more than that, I am more interested in being at peace after a minute of silent contemplation. That is peace AND power.
If someone has gotten away with lying, do not run away after proving the truth.
The one who proves is the one who argues, and the one who argues is the one who never climbs the ladders of peace and success.
Let it be.
Forgive without being asked.
Do your own thing. And do that with ease.
You will feel your peace in the most joyful manner.
They are bad. And admitting them is the first way to starting to build good ones.
Today is the day!
When someone actually conspired against me, manipulated that they had done their work, and told me to trust them.
When in reality, they had not done their work, and I still have evidences of that.
I could have shared those evidences.
But truth has the power to prove itself.
Take your time. And be true to yourself.
Like a small kid.
Everything.
All the little matters from earphone not working to big matters like a friend not talking.
And in this heavy world, you will find yourself the lightest ever.
The hardest thing in the world is to do.
To do your work.
To get up and get that workout done.
To work with 101% honesty.
To be honest even when no one is watching you.
To not make fun of others. (There is a very visible line between making fun of others and having fun with others.)
To sleep on time.
To turn off internet.
To cook your food yourself.
But you know what?
Not doing all of these is harder.
- Make sure your work is not a headache for others.
- That usually happens when you work solely for money or a tag.
- Make sure others do not have to follow-up with you on work.
- That usually happens when you do not care about others’ stakeholding, and only your own convenience.
- You are right – no matter what. And that, is the most difficult part.